#49 AdaPia D’Errico- Authenticity, Building a life, Self Forgiveness

Chatting with CandiceAdapia D’ErricoEpisode Run Time: 01:19:32
Adapia D’Errico is a professional real estate investor on private equity and other areas of investments such as start-ups, ventures, and cryptocurrency. Her book “Productive Intuition” is a self-help book that aims to explore the “intersection of science and spirituality through story and the senses to immediately bring you into alignment with your Inner Authority”.In this episode, Ada and I talk about her journey of self-realization with her first marriage, being your most authentic self with your partner, and the Goalcast video that went viral.
00:00:00 00:06:30 Finding courage to rise above an unsatisfied life
00:10:32 Pressures of marrying and settling down early
00:14:22 Rewriting your narrative
00:18:41 The difference between being self-centered and selfish[00:21:46] “Being authentic and not stopping your dance”
00:26:15 The dark side of self-love
00:31:55 How to be constructive and intentional with yourself
00:35:14 The power of apology and communication
00:40:27 Building a life (and a house) together
00:46:28 Money as a tool in marriage
00:52:02 Ada’s journey of sharing her learnings with the world
01:00:47 Self-honesty and self-forgiveness
01:05:07 Ada re-facing the music and the video that went viral
01:11:11 Navigating booby traps and pain points
01:17:01 Final words and where to find Ada and her work

Where do we draw the line between being self-centered and selfish?The culture surrounding the “self-love” movement has made quite an impact on social media, particularly towards Gen Z and Millennials. While the intention promotes a positive outlook towards the self, it can also lead to an aversion to conflict and labelling of negative emotions and criticism as “toxic”. However, life and reality rarely operate this way and part of growing as a person involves looking inwards, being honest, and facing the parts of ourselves that we don’t like. The key to navigating positive self-love is to self-regulate; recognizing “negative” emotions like anger as energy that just needs to be aired out to make space for more positive emotions.
What happens when you build a life and a house together?As I share my experience building a house with my husband and the differences in our perspective, Ada shares a similar experience with her husband and how they successfully navigated this big step by forming a team of two people with different areas of expertise, her in finance and him in architecture and construction. Ada also shares how life and love is practical and how she understands money as not the endgame in a marriage, but an important tool in making marriages work.
Ada discusses the Goalcast video that went viral
In 2019, Goalcast shared a video of Ada’s keynote speech discussing her previous marriage and how she eventually left because of how unhappy she was. The video went viral with over 40 million views, and she received a considerable amount of negative feedback over a video she believed was a 20-minute condensed version of her 9 year-marriage. After she reached out to friends and family about the shame she felt over the video, she finally confronts it and decides to watch it again. What she thought would have been a difficult process led to her realizing the beauty and impact of her video and her journey to self-forgiveness.

Links and Resources:
Official Website https://www.adapiaderrico.com/
Where to buy "Productive Intuition" https://www.productiveintuition.com/buy-here
Adapia's LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/adapia/