Confidence is a choice

I spotted this T-shirt as I was getting ready to exit a commuter flight to Toronto. I quickly reached into my bag, grabbed my camera and got the shot.

Confidence really IS a choice. Here’s an excerpt from an article by Coach Blaise, EdD:

To some extent we all understand that confidence is a helpful approach to success. Confident folk show up ready to take on the days challenges. Confident athletes show up ready to compete. They fully believe in their abilities. They know that they will give their opponent a run for their money.

Myth: Confidence is for the few

Some believe that confidence is reserved for only a small group of people. They believe that confidence is something a person is born with, like a personality trait. There are traits like charisma and being outgoing that are at times thought of as confidence. But those traits do not equal confidence. We have seen stories and known of people who have a quiet confidence who would not fit the description of a highly social person. Essentially confidence is not limited to extroverts or those who can walk into a room and command attention, but for introverts and those who fly under the radar of mass attention.

Confidence is not a trait. A person is not born confident. Confidence is a mindset.

Myth: You have to be winning to be confident

Others believe that in order to be confident you have to have won; that you have to have a winning record to be confident or that you have to have some sort of proof to be confident. Confidence is not just given to a person. Just because you have won does not mean you are automatically confident.

Winning helps. Knowing that you have the skill to win in competition, beat out opponents, and you have what it takes to reach your goals does build confidence. But winning is not necessary to be confident. You can be an underdog and be confident. You can be a back up quarterback or be on the second string and still be confident. Confidence is a mindset.

When I first learned that confidence could be a choice, I did not believe it. If confidence was a choice then I would be confident, why wouldn’t I choose to be confident all the time. Why aren’t all people automatically confident if we can just chose it? I did not buy into the idea that a person could actively choose to be confident.

However, if you break it down you can begin to see how a person, athlete, or coach can choose confidence. Confidence is the unshakable belief in your ability. The belief in yourself is a thought process. Our minds can choose what thoughts to repeat, what thoughts to listen to, and what thoughts to interrupt. The constant self-talk statement of doubt or unworthiness certainly is not going to help a person be confident when the pressure is up. In fact, not only will it lead to a decrease in personal confidence but it also leads to poor performance. The athlete who is constantly questioning their ability will completely shut down after a mistake.

But a confident athlete can choose their thoughts to be “I’m ready,” “I’ve trained for this,” and “No one will out work me.” An athlete who tells themselves confident statements is going to be better prepared for competition and bounce back more quickly if they make mistake. The more confident thoughts an athlete has, the stronger his or her belief becomes in their ability to preform. As this belief is continuously reinforced by confident thinking, the athlete builds and maintains a sense of confidence.

by Coach Blaise, EdD