Overthinking: 7 Things Overthinkers Do And 10 Signs of Overthinking

Overthinking: 7 Things Overthinkers Do And 10 Signs of Overthinking

In this video we've put together an objective list designed to give you
perspective on your own thoughts.

Here's a list of seven things that over-thinkers can relate to:
1) Over-thinkers apologize too much.
2) Over-thinkers relive embarrassing past experiences in their heads.
3) Over-thinkers appear more insecure than they really are.
4) Over-thinkers have problems sleeping.
5) Over-thinkers worry about making others happy.
6) Over-thinkers always need a second opinion.
7) Over-thinkers spend time worrying about things they have no control over.

When you've got something big on your mind.
being called an overthinker makes you feel invalidated frustrated and
disappointed in yourself.
But how do you know whether or not you are overthinking?
With these 10 signs you can figure out whether you might be overthinking or not.

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There are many different kinds of cheeses!
You walk into any given grocery store, and there it is! The long, daunting shelf of cheeses.
There's orange cheddar, white cheddar, mozzarella,
parmesan, provolone, Colby-Jack, and the list goes on.
All you need is cheese for tonight's dinner, but this is turning out to be the hardest decision of your life.
If you can relate to this, or a situation less ridiculous but similar to this, you're probably an over-thinker.
Many of us are guilty of being over thinkers, and there's nothing wrong with that.

But here's a list of seven things that over-thinkers can relate to:
1) Over-thinkers apologize too much
Before you're even sure if something is your fault, you're already apologizing for it.
This leaves you feeling vulnerable and exposed to more trouble.
Like for example, taking the blame for every situation may cause others to take advantage of you.
Over-thinkers tend to want to smooth over the rough patches, but sometimes it can cause more trouble than it's worth.

2) Over-thinkers relive embarrassing past experiences in their heads
You tend to repeatedly relive the moments you are less proud of in your mind. For example:
Imagine that you're having a perfectly normal day.
Then your brain decides to remind you of that one time in middle school when you ripped your pants in gym class.
And just like that, your whole day is ruined.
You tend to relive these past experiences and imagine how it could have gone differently.

3) Over-thinkers appear more insecure than they really are
Because of your indecisive nature, it may cause others to view you as unsure of yourself or
under-confident
This becomes apparent in working situations, because you take too long to make decisions for clients or projects.

4) Over-thinkers have problems sleeping
When you lay down at night, your brain starts to process all of the information you learned from that day.
If you're a natural over-thinker,
your brain goes haywire at night trying to organize all the thoughts that you're having. You may lay down in your bed at 9:30 p.m,
only to find yourself wide awake at 1:00 a.m,
forming a plan of how you're finally gonna start going to the gym on a regular basis.
A study published in May 2003 states that there is a direct link between
rumination, or overthinking, and negative emotions and thoughts.
Sleep quality and depressive and irritated moods go hand-in-hand.

5) Over-thinkers worry about making others happy
You often disregard your own desires for the sole purpose of satisfying someone else.
You may repress your own opinion,
so as not to contradict someone else.
You constantly make decisions based on how other people would react to them, rather than what is best for you.

6) Over-thinkers always need a second opinion
It's hard for you to make a decision on your own.
You may spend hours in the department store, because you're taking pictures of every outfit and sending it to all your friends for their input.
It may be difficult for you to make even simple decisions without consulting an outside source.

7) Over-thinkers spend time worrying about things they have no control over
Whether you like it or not, there are always going to be things in the world that you have no control over.
In fact, most things fall into that category. If you're an over-thinker, you tend to lose sleep over things that are completely and utterly uninfluenced by you.
It's okay to accept that some things are out of your reach.
Sometimes over-thinkers make their lives more difficult than they have to be. A study published in September 2008 titled
Rethinking rumination, states that there is a strong relationship between overthinking and mental illness.
Based on a person's proneness to overthink,
you may be able to predict the likelihood of that person being depressed or having anxiety.
Being an over-thinker can make you good at critical thinking, as well as sympathetic to others and their problems.
But there are many options out there to help stop you from overthinking your whole life,
if you feel that it's a problem. Try to put things in a perspective! Do some meditation or deep breathing!
Stop trying to make everything perfect, because that more than likely is never gonna happen! If you're an over-thinker,
try overthinking the good things in your life, rather than the bad!

When you've got something big on your mind
being called an overthinker makes you
feel invalidated frustrated and
disappointed in yourself
but how do you know whether or not you
are overthinking
in this video we've put together an
objective list designed to give you
perspective on your own thoughts
with these 10 signs you can figure out
whether you might be overthinking or not
one you have stressful daydreams do you
daydream about the future
everyone daydreams from time to time you
dream about succeeding in your career
meeting your soulmate or living the
lifestyle you've always imagined
these healthy daydreams feel happy and
uplifting
but overthinkers daydream in a different
way
instead of looking fondly into the
future overthinkers imagine
every way something could go wrong their
negative daydreams create
all kinds of unnecessary stress in other
words
they worry about the future way before
it actually happens
if you're imagining all the ways your
dreams could go wrong
you may be overthinking two you feel
vulnerable
overthinking places you in a vulnerable
state of mind
you're trying to solve your problems but
it feels like you're not making any
progress
you feel angry and helpless which tanks
your mood
and brings deep insecurities to the
surface in moments like these
people may overreact to small problems
or get defensive when loved ones offer a
helping hand
if you're feeling especially vulnerable
you may be overthinking
so step back and take a breath
then you may realize things aren't as
bad as they seem three
you're indecisive have you gone back and
forth 20 times on the same decision
overthinking ruins your ability to make
firm decisive choices
when all the options are swirling
through your head it feels like there's
no right answer
like every solution is just another dead
end
if you're stuck wondering what path to
follow you may be overthinking
or you can't concentrate most people
overthink when trying to solve a problem
in their life
but overthinking actually hurts your
concentration a 2003 study by jambo
merski
and others found that overthinking also
known as rumination
damages your ability to focus when
you're overthinking your brain gets
cluttered and distracted
so you stop making progress you stop
moving forward
if you're spending all your time
thinking and none of your time doing
you're probably overthinking 5.
you're constantly anxious how often do
you feel anxious
hundreds of studies have discovered
links between overthinking also known as
rumination
and anxiety when you feel insecure or
doubtful about something
your anxiety stimulates nervous
unhelpful thoughts
not only do these thoughts cloud your
judgment they also create
even more anxiety in other words anxiety
and rumination feed off each other
while heavily impacting your mood and
motivation
a book by nolan huxma explains that
ruminators have significantly more
anxiety than the average person
so if your thoughts are making you
anxious you may be thinking too much
6. your bad mood won't go away
have you been in a bad mood all week
according to a 2000 study by davis and
nolan
people who ruminate experience longer
more intense periods of negativity
they find themselves stuck in a rut for
days or weeks on end
the problem is people cope with
negativity by overthinking
but overthinking only worsens your state
of mind if your bad mood just won't go
away
you may be overthinking 7.
you avoid things you like when you're
overthinking your thoughts take over
your life
it may feel like you can't do anything
but focus on these unsolvable problems
even your favorite activities start to
lose their spark a 1993 study by leon
bumarski
and nolan found that people avoid their
hobbies when they're overthinking
whether you like to write paint or
exercise your passion begins to dwindle
because your mind is clouded by doubt
and anxiety
if you're thinking so much that you
start to avoid your favorite activities
you might be overthinking eight
you reinterpret old memories are you
revisiting old memories
are you rethinking the past wondering
what went wrong
this is a very common sign of
overthinking
a 2006 study by star and molds found
that ruminators
especially those struggling with anxiety
and depression replay past events in
their heads
if you're revisiting embarrassing
moments and missed opportunities
and you're probably overthinking nine
you want a deeper reason are you
searching for some
deeper understanding of yourself the
same 1993 study by leon bamarski
and nolan found that ruminators search
for a deeper meaning
that doesn't exist you're looking for
some grand resolution to your problems
something to lift your mood and relieve
your anxiety but the problem is usually
your own train of thought
and 10. you've experienced this before
if you're overthinking now you've
probably done it before
the same 2000 study by davis and nolan
found that overthinkers ruminate over
and over and over again
each time you run into a problem mental
or physical you may overthink
and drive your mood into the ground so
think back on the last time you felt the
way you do now
was it yesterday the week before how
often do you worry that you're
overthinking
if this is something you've experienced
on a regular basis you might be
overthinking now too
do you relate to any of these signs have
you ever caught yourself overthinking
how did you know tell us about your
experiences in the comments section
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if you have someone in your life who's
overthinking and you want to be there
for them
offer them a hug or a shoulder to cry on
help them see that there is hope and
that things
will get better let them know you care
about them and that they're not alone in
this
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know what to say but it'll mean a lot to
them if you show them that they're not
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