7 STEPS TO A HAPPIER LIFE - overcoming childhood

For a happy, fulfilling life you have to come to an understanding of your childhood traumas, so you can ‘move on’ and start living your own truth.

Childhood trauma can come in many forms:
• Physical abuse which happens when anyone who has authority over you uses it to injure you physically.
• Physical neglect, when your caregiver fails to give you adequate food, warmth, clothing or a place to live.
• Emotional abuse, occurring in the form of threats, shaming, scapegoating, gaslighting or manipulation. We often don’t think of emotional manipulation as abuse but it is.
• Sexual abuse, which is one of the most damaging forms of abuse and sadly one of the most common when it comes to childhood trauma.
• Loss of a primary caregiver. Even when the loss is really early on in your life and you can’t remember it, the effects are far-reaching and make you vulnerable in ways you can’t always realise.
• Emotional neglect, which means that your caregiver fails to give you the nurturing, love and attention you need to thrive.
• Natural disasters or war. These events are deeply scarring to the child.

You might be like me and think that your childhood has been pretty wonderful. You only have good memories but have a look at this list:

• Depression
• Dissociation
• Anxiety
• Aggression
• Anger issues
• Shock
• Denial
• Confusion
• Muscle tension
• Relentless fatigue
• Sleep problems
• Mysterious aches and pains
• Procrastination
• Impulsiveness
• Poor memory
• Out of touch with yourself and others
• Poor behavioural control
• Trust issues
• Passive-aggressive behaviour
• Perpetual victimhood
• Promiscuity
• Low or no libido
• Trouble forming deep and meaningful connections
• No self-worth
• Chaotic lifestyle
• Lack of clarity
• Poor focus
• Overeating
• Other addictive behaviours
• Accident-prone, bad luck

These are some of the signs that raise the alarm bells that not everything was as rosy coloured as you remembered from your childhood.

Whatever you experienced in your childhood becomes your truth. You keep on attracting the same circumstances like the ones from your childhood.

Even if you recognize that you are behaving like your dad or mum, or attracting similar bad luck, diseases or struggles, you still don’t know what to do about it.

Your childhood experiences cannot be underestimated!

Here are 7 steps to set you free from your past:

1. Focus on finding solutions, ask the Universe for guidance and keep an open mind for answers that come. This is how you find your own truth and start trusting your intuition.

2. See things for what they really are. Start questioning everything, esp your own behaviours and motivations.

If you really want to accept the past and how it has shaped your life, you have to start seeing things for what they are, rather than what you wish they were.

For instance, you might need to accept that your dad was physically abusive, or that your uncle did sexually manipulate you, and that DAMAGE WAS DONE.

If you miss this step, you can’t heal and you stay stuck.

3. Distance yourself from toxic people in your life, even if these are your parents or close friends.

SURVIVORS OF TRAUMA NEED TO GET AWAY FROM PEOPLE WHO CREATE STRESS AND DISHARMONY BECAUSE HEALING ONLY HAPPENS IN PEACE, QUIET AND SAFETY.

4. Find a trauma specialist. From my experience, it is impossible to heal from the trauma of your past alone.

Seek out an expert. Energy healing is one of the most potent ways to dissolve deeply buried traumas and to reconnect you to your TRUE CORE SELF.

Your energy is like a field of information, and I can find answers and memories that you have long forgotten (from as early as your conception) and bring them up for healing.

5. Clean up your diet and remove toxins from your body. Heavy metals and many toxic substances are neurotoxins and cause you to disconnect from your spirit or intuition.

Toxins can be neutralized during an energy healing session and I will give you advice on how to keep cleaning up your tissues.

6. Allow yourself to feel things as they come up. If you constantly shut off your negative emotions or feelings the pressure starts to build up inside your body and you are going SNAP at the wrong time.

What you want to HEAL, you have to Feel. Connect with any of your physical sensations, like tingling, tightness or pain, as these are all messengers from your subconscious mind and offer valuable insights into the deeper parts of yourself.

7. Love your feelings, every single feeling especially the negative ones.

Say "I love myself for feeling sad/angry/anxious/stingy/crabby/lousy/ ugly"etc etc,

Do this with every emotion you feel, but especially with the hard ones.

Only when you learn to love every facet of yourself will you start to heal deeply.

Admitting the truth doesn’t cause suffering, it ends it

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