Acts of Service - How to stop shame and condemnation

Acts of service is such a complex love language because, with its many dialects, it can be expressed in pretty much any and every day we can think of. And, acts of service includes "chores around the house," which most couples seem to argue about.

Even though I always loved cooking and cleaning, I ended up resenting my husband for having to do it. I would cook and clean, and then expect him to be grateful and show me love in the way I was demanding. It turns out, I wasn't being very loving at all.

But, thankfully, I learned to focus on my own thoughts, words, and behaviors and everything in my life and in our marriage changed, for the better.

What do you think about acts of service? And what do you think about speaking this love language? :) :) :)