I Dare to DREAM BIG and WHD Feeds My SOUL

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Hello Chong Sun Wah,

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Your are a beautiful lady. I like you.

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World Harmony Day Has Really Touched Our Soul

A strong belief with passion - you really do not need paper qualifications or experiences to succeed, just like Greta and I. That’s why I said that with these two combination it is great power, on WHD 2003 the way the whole team behaved and worked looked like it was the end of the world and all of us got to save the world, it was such a great feeling that all of us had experienced that we could not expect anyone to understand us.

I saw the magic of strong Faith works in my mother, in me and now in my daughter Greta and everyone around us. I would love everyone to experience what we have experienced as a family, in our spiritual pursue for inner happiness to be wholesome people. WHD has shaped especially Greta’s body, mind and soul. Even at a far away land in Perth, my son was touched by the magic of WHD in a special way, as these two women are very special to him.

Even though he was far away; he still managed to balance both Greta and my emotions. Without him, I doubt my relationship with Greta can be better. He always helped me to see things in Greta perspective, as he understood her better. Gabby got a very strong influence over both of us and he will tell us what went wrong while we were working together on WHD, as Greta and I are very strong will individuals. Sometime we can get carry away in whatever we were doing because the pressure itself was tremendously heavy on our shoulders. When we fight, we called Gabriel and poured our heart out to him. These two women never failed to listen to Gabby who is mile away because Gabriel is always right. They said that the man cannot live without a woman, but in our case both women cannot live without a Man. Gabriel is really an amazing guy and if he failed to be a psychiatrist, it will be a lost for humanity because he got so much to offer in this area of great understanding of human feelings and emotions. His future wife will be a very lucky girl if she can feel him and see his inner qualities and appreciate him for who he is – a simple man full of understanding, love and compassion.

My philosophy and belief in life is that the children are not mine, but came through me. My duty and responsibility is to raise them well to strive to be a good being and not to keep me company, but for them to build a better world for their children. In short, I raise my children for the world. They got to build a better world; I‘m here to guide them to reach this goal. Something liked passing the traditions down the road or to pile the foundation for them. This will be the new mindset we needed to ingrain in the youth of today because with the old mindset that we have children to look after us at old age will not work in the 21st century and should not as we must be responsible for ourselves.

And a woman who held a babe against her bosom said, Speak to us of Children. And he said:

CHILDREN

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.

They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.

You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of to-morrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.

You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the finite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.

Let your bending in the Archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as he loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.

By Kahlil Gibran

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We Must Be Responsible Parents

Much of the world problems is not the result of the old system, I do not put the complete responsibility or blame on the world leaders, so on and so forth, instead I felt parents must carry some of the blame too for not being good parents. As I see it, the least we could do or contribute to this world is to raise our children to be good being; we cannot leave the responsibility to the teachers or religious leaders or to the state. And when the state took this right away from the parents there are great consequences for the entire world.

We need to start a school on Parenting. I’m not joking, why? Because Capitalism had brainwashed all our minds! If you are not sensitive and have strong values you can just get sucked into the system and thus lose the real meaning of life. Capitalism is using money to compensate the time they could not be with the children because making more is more important than to bond with the children. It is guilt money to make them feel better when they do not have the time for the children. It had convinced us that by making more money and giving it to the children, buying all kind of things that they really do not need, equate as being a good parent. So now how? Are we going to rectify it by changing the mindset of the people that money cannot equate with love?

Very importantly, we got to drive this message to the youth that before they become parent they must firstly question themselves, why do they want to have children? Is it to add meaning to your life or keep you company when you grow old or as a security blanket? Or in their mind other people have I must have also lah. Once they are honest with themselves, they will pave the right foundation for their child.

Now, for those who did not plan to have any but somehow it happened, just like me, what are we going to do? What kind of mindset must we have in order not to feel cheated and be sane? Maybe because I’m still a traditional woman at heart, I embraced this belief that all parents must sacrifice for their children, instead of blaming society, I accepted my fate. If I’m not wrong in Asian thinking, once we do have children, there is no more about the self. Everything we do, we did it for our children, for their happiness. God gave us the greatest gift that is relationship so this means we have children to give meaning to our life. My philosophy is, I will shine for God and my children will shine for me. I remembered seeing a family of four at a dance studio and the wife was quite frustrated with the children and my advised to her was to fantasy that her children will grow up to be like the Osmonds brothers and she gave me a smile. Because by thinking like that, all your anger and frustration of the children will disappear. Life becomes more bearable.

I can never forget all these moments of sudden expression in my entire life because I read this as the sign from God that I must continue to chase this dream even though I ‘m quite tired mentality, emotional and physically. On top of it, financially I am at the lowest of my life, so how am I going to go on this journey all alone to uplift the spirit of the youth that there is a happy world waiting for them, while ‘death’ is waiting for me inside and outside (must pay bills). I was about to surrender and take this excuse that I must be a good mother to call it quit, but destiny got others plan for me. After what my son had said, I know I must go on, until my dream becomes a reality one day. My children kept reminding me that the Government is doing their best to accommodate the people wishes and I should find some comfort with that knowledge and peace in my heart. They only wanted to see a happy mother, and not a worried one. Gabriel said,” Mama, you should be a very happy woman because you don’t need to worry about your children and you don’t need to worry about money, but you only worried about the society.” He often wondered why I was putting this pressure onto my shoulder?

Naturally my children wanted an ordinary mother like their friends whose parent’s duty is just to dote on them, instead of one who wants to save the world, so to say. Gabby said,” My friends got a room to himself and he is living in a HDB flat. Why I do not have a room to myself and I’m living in a private apartment. When I open his cupboards his mother bought him a lot of clothes and long trousers, why I don’t have and you are a businesswoman. He could have everything and I could not.” Children at that age equate giving money as proving your love for them or maybe in general that’s how all people think. Again this kind of thinking cannot go on if we want to build a better world.

As far back as I could remember my children were very materialistic children like most Singaporean kids. But can you have blamed them when the influences around were so contagious. For example, my sister-in-law and brother just took them out for window-shopping, instead of going to a library to discover new knowledge or to go for sport to improve their health or my sister buying Channel products for my daughter at such a young age besides buying branded clothes for her and my son. Can you imagine how this will shape their mind when they grow up, when I don’t even buy them new clothes for Chinese New Year and I only gave them$3 for their food and no holidays abroad?

I remembered when Gabby tried to increase his allowance to $5; I refused him based on the fact that with $3 you still get a decent meal. He screamed at me and said, “Why are you bargaining with me, do you know how much a MacDonald meal cost including the coke. You can just give $5,000 to an artist and yet you could not give your son the extra $2. Now you see when you are old who is going to look after you, the artist or your Government or your son!” He hated that I spend all my money on those architectural proposals. I explained to him that was R&D for spiritual developments, someone got to do it to build a better world and not everyone know how to reach it, except with God guidance. He did not support my aspirations for arts because he equated money going away from my pocket and then nothing left for them. I bought a grand piano for Substation and all my family members were not happy about it. I told my son I had discussed with them and he replied back that was not the case. He said that I did not consult them first and it was only after I have done it then I told them. So they were not happy with me, but they learn to accept what I want to do in regards to my money.

My relationship with my children, especially my son were going on a rough patch due to the fact that I was obsessed with my dreams that one day I will find the answer to unite the world through art and architecture. My children just could not understand why I still need to follow my dream after having children. I said that Mama is only beautiful because she still live for her dreams and ideals. If I give up then that’s the end of my life and the meaning of living. I told them I don’t expect them to understand me, they got to accept me for who I am. I’m not asking them to be ME, neither should they try to convince me to be like them. If they don’t like this Mama, they can divorce me, like I had divorced their father.

28 September 1992

My Dearest Son,

Happy Birthday to you, I’m not a person good with my words, but I think I can express myself better when I write.

Maybe in your eyes you believe love is giving materialistic things like presents and money, but Mama loves means setting a good example and by providing my children with the best in term of security, comfort, happiness and the values in life. As you know when you are young, I always told you the 4 most important values in our life are Share, Care, Love and Understanding and I hope you have not forgotten it.

Mama understands you have certain kind of expectations but at times I don’t think I can fulfill that for you because I believe you must strive it on your own. As you know during your past birthdays, I only gave you $50, this year I make a change because as you know I am very generous with my friends and I supported some causes with my money, therefore I felt that I should be fair to my children and not be so stingy with them.

As I can see you are character that keep asking for more. I had given you $400 to enjoy with your friends and you should be happy. Yet I discovered that you expect something more from me. To tell you the truth, I’m very disappointed because I thought that you would know your limit. By asking more you hurt my feeling because I expect a mother like me will raise a son with better values and contentment, but it looks like I have failed as a mother. It is not that I cannot buy you a present, but it is whether you should receive one, when I have already given you $400. This is not a small amount of money for a young man like you.

As I told Greta, poor people need art to fill their souls to be happy and rich people need money to be happy and yet they are not happy and they needed more. I hope you are man who need to fill your soul, if not I’m quite worry for your future as I told you repeatedly that my money is not for my children, it is for my dream and aspirations to make my country a better place for my people. I want you to join my hand to make it happened for all of us. I want you to cultivate a heart of God, so that your future will be full and bright.

Of course there are certain characters that are difficult for you to change but most important try to define which one are the bad ones and which one are the good ones. If you think that it is the bad one, you must try to keep improving yourself in order for you to be a better person. The good characters you must try to make it better in order for you to excel in the right direction.

I take you as a man because you are not a child anymore. No use beating you because it serves no purpose except to pain my heart deeper when I cane you. I can only pray for you and ask God to guide you to help you understand life deeper for you to be a happy person.

If you think what I had written is not right, I will be too happy to hear from you.

With all my love
Yours ever Mama

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30 September 1992

Dearest Gabriel,

Sometimes I ask God why he gave me such beautiful thoughts and heart and why can’t He gives it to the others too or help them to reach such values.

I hope you can feel and think like me because my attitude and approach can only give you a better and happier life. Sometimes I wondered why couldn’t you see my example and learn something from me because I ‘m your best example.

Honey, it is not easy raising up children because it is a big responsibility not only financially, but also most importantly mentally and emotionally. One day when you become a father I’m sure you can understand my present position. I just wonder how best I can help you to better yourself and make your life meaningful with a direction. I want nothing from you just your understanding and happiness as I said I want nothing from my country except to see that the Government is going on the right path for my people.

I’m a very happy and contented woman because I feel very close to God who bless me with not one but two beautiful children and friends who love me for what I’m and who I’m.

Change and growth we can’t avoid, but we have to make sure it is for the better. I hope you know your path to lead you to your success and happiness.

With all my love
Mama

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Dear Mum,

I ‘m not able to speak to you, but at least I would be a lot much able to write than to speak to you.

The birthday present doesn’t matter to me at all. I didn’t even think that spending $400 with my friends it seems to you that it is a birthday present. But there is something you have to know. It would be better for me to write down on this sheet of foolscap.

I’m saying that I’m sorry, because I now cause you to go to the school once more. But I can promise that it’s the last time that you’re stepping into my school. Mr. Goh, my English teacher wants to speak to you after 10.10am.

Hope you will forgive me for one last time.

Yours sincerely
Gabriel

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1 September 1992 (2.00am)

Dearest Gabriel,

As you know I cannot open my mouth to talk because the result is totally unlike my personality. And the angrier I’m, I will lose control and I will take a cane and bit you up. Now I’m trying to change and control myself, therefore I need to write to let all my anger subside and let you know how I feel inside. If I can change, I believe you can too. I hope you can make an effort because I’m setting the example and making the first move.

So please don’t think that I’m keeping silent because I don’t care what happened to you. I still care and I love you, although I love my country first. Remember what I always said to both of you,” Mama loves God, loves my country, love Gabby & Greta and Mama loves everybody.”

What Mr. Goh told me this morning was a shock to me? I could not believe you could do such an act as I too know you have some knowledge and understanding of the Bible, therefore I believe you know God wants us to be honest with ourselves. If you lie to the others you are lying to yourself and this if not check, will destroy your future. I dare not imagine for you because I think you should do the imagination by yourself.

I asked again and again, “What’s wrong with you Sunflower, are you a good mother.” Or I should ask, “What’s wrong with you Gabby, are you missing something or you are trying to prove something, or you want my attention.” If it’s the attention that you needed from me, then I wish it not to be in this manner, because you are only hurting me. What you are doing now is pulling my name down? You have shamed me in front of your teacher and vice principal. I hope this is the last time as you have promised me in your letter.

The vice principle does not have too many good words for you because she checks with the others teachers and they have told her that you are not putting your heart in your work. Your relief form teacher said that he got to keep an eye on you to make sure your work is up to date. But honey, that’s no good, you must be responsible because you must help yourself and put more pain in your schoolwork because your exam is coming. If you need force and reminder you can never succeed in life because success need your own effort. We can’t do it for you. Your teachers and Mama can only support and guide you in whatever manner you require our assistant to be. We will always be ready to help you.

I don’t like to write more. All I ask as a mother is the minimum from my son, please do your schoolwork’s for all your teachers on time and if you need me to go to school, it’s because your teachers have some praise for you and you can make me proud of you like I had make you proud of me. I like to see this day and I’m waiting for this day to happen.

Thank you for your kind cooperation and understanding.

With all my love
Mama

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Gabriel Always asked The ‘WHY’ Like I Used To When I Was A Child

He always asked the why, why and why, concerning materialistic stuffs. He was mad and at age 12, he gave me an ultimatum,” Now mama, you decide who you love most, your country or children!” He told me that my country gives me nothing only heartache and wasting all your money on proposals and that I will not be recognized for my contributions (He saw how URA treated me when I brought the Library model to Mrs. Koh office. An experience we as a family can never forget.)

He gave me a couple of minutes to think, before I gave him the answer. I told him I didn’t need a couple of minutes and I can give my answer straightaway. “Gabby my son, I love my country first, because I’m a Singaporean. My children will always take a backstage because without my country where can I raise my children with pride and dignity (I have a bit of communism thinking) I’m not a woman who takes everything for granted. I felt very fortunate and secure being a Singaporean and for that reason I felt I owed a lot to this tiny island called Singapore and I want to give back in whatever way I know how. Must have gratitude! And most importantly, my duty as a mother is to rise both of you as proud Singaporeans by knowing their roots and loving Singapore.”

Immediately he shouted for his sister,” Greta, Greta, Mama chose her country and not us!” My son said,” Now Mama you must remember what you have spoken to us. When you grow old or when you are in trouble please don’t come to us for help. You can go to your country for help or substation or the young artist that you had given money for his art show, and you see what this guy and your country will do for you. If we don’t come to your assistance, please don’t blame us because you have set the rules which we will never forget!” I answered back, “No problem, I know where I stand with my children. Most importantly, I know God will understand and He will bless me throughout my life.” Gabriel always asked me when was their turn (for me to pamper them) because I promised them once I realized my dream I will spend time with them and this mean also spend money on them but unfortunately the dream kept changing and grow bigger each time like what my friend Mr. Nito said, “Your dream is getting bigger and bigger.” My children got fed up with all my promises. What to do lah, as a young child I have made a promised to God that if no one is going to chase high ideal I will sacrifice my life to do so in order to find the answer to better our life?

The only way I knew best was to pray to God constantly to help me save my children, by asking him to help me save my soul first. I was very confidence that whatever the bad influences around them, as long as I carried myself upright and true to my cause, I believed one day my children will see the Light and they will come back to me and love me for who I am and will not want me to change a single bit.

When I was in Perth to be with Gabriel to spend some quality time with him or bonding time and one fine night at 1am, I was sewing his shirt while he was studying and he stood up suddenly and said to me with one of his hand held high up, ”Mama how do you come out with all these big ideas of ASEAN House, Greater Asia and India becoming together as one Union. When did you start thinking in this manner?” Out of a blue he was so impressed with all my political thinking and works and he said, “Mama, you are 1 in 300 million, I don’t want you to change not even a single bit and I want you the way you are, the way you think for the world and you must keep on chasing your dream. The way you look and how you glow, this means the dream is very good for you.” Then he went back to concentrate in his study, and all this while I kept quiet. I was so taken by this sudden outburst and on top of it, all his life he was trying to teach me to be smart, and told me not to help people or give free proposals. My answered to him was that there were so many smart people in the world already, maybe now this world needed stupid people like me to make the world better. Then he started again and said that now he understood why I was so interested in politics, news like CNN, BBC and documentaries in regards to world developments. He said that since he came to Perth, he also watched documentaries and world news. He also found himself a change person, because he realized to be interested is to be interesting, especially when he was talking to people. Finally he got it, not because after all these years of my drumming it into his ears, if I have known, I would have sent him overseas much earlier.

My father never liked me, but he was impressed with all what I had done too when he read my book ‘ASEAN’s future is our future’. He praised me, which he had never done in his entire life and the only advised he gave to me before he passed away was be careful and speak good English if not people will not respect me. He believed it was not worth going to prison to voice out my opinion in the political development of the country because being a Singaporean as he said, we should not have any opinion especially in the area of politics. He wanted me to have a thought for my children future, if I decided to speak my mind in regards to Singapore’s future, the water issue and the region.

My son relationship with my mother could never have been better; he is a joy in her life. Instead of hating me, now my children both love me dearly not because I gave them a lot of money but more so for what I represent. If not, why did my son say that his study can stop but the vision and mission of WHD must go on. I remembered for WHD 2002, I almost gave up due to the fact that Greta broke down midway and my son said to me on the phone,” Don’t worry about Greta, God will take care of her. WHD must go on, if Sunflower cannot do it no one can. No need to invite VIP, you be the speaker for WHD” I got the green light from both of my children to chase my ideal of a better and fairer world for all, don’t you agree that I am a very blessed woman even without a man’s love.

Gabriel is such a change person after he left Singapore. He is much patient and when he came back home; he disliked the way Singapore rush for everything. I do not know whether he will be back for good, but no matter what he is a true Singaporean at heart. He written a composition in 9 June 1992 My Idea Of A Happy Man? What a composition at the age of between 12 and 13 years old and after he had shown it to me, I kept asking him who had written it for him. He kept saying that he had written it by himself and when he showed it to me, he was struggling with the last paragraph and that was when I gave my input about the enrichment of life and the whole sentence was constructed by him. His soul has spoken and now at the age of 24 years old, Gabriel’s aspiration is just to have a family, a house and a car. He does not have big ambition like Greta and me. He told me if he is going to be a businessman, then he will go into politic and change the world. If he decides to be a psychiatrist, then he will be very happy to listen for 2 hours to his patient problems and hope that he could touch their life along the way.

My Idea of A Happy Man

A happy man is one who finds joy in helping others. He is contented with what he has and is not envious of those who are better off than he. Health not wealth occupies top priority in his life.

A man must also be free, in order that he may be happy. Without freedom, his creativity will be severely hampered, thus making him miserable. He also should be allowed to do what he wants to do. With that, he should be able to achieve his dreams and the career, which he wants or interested in.

A happy man must also have good friends who are willing to lend a helping hand. He should be happy when he goes out with them and there should not be any misunderstanding with his friends and himself.

What a happy man needs, lastly but not least, is a happy and complete family. That means he should have one loving wife and a few children. He should not only spend time on his work but also must spend most of his precious time communicating with his wife and children too. His wife and the children are the most important people in his life.

As I see it, life is a long process of enrichment – day by days we should be able to see a happier person.

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We Are A FAMILY In Spirit

This is what I mean by saving the soul of my children? You cannot force spiritually into their life, instead I walk the spiritual path and when they see how effective it has been and how the qualities of my life have improved, they will automatic follow suit and that is how we should influence the youth to develop ‘The Consciousness’ to create the Harmonist Philosophy.

The children of today are smart, not like those in the olden days who just accept and follow without questioning. They will emulate faster by example and not just by teaching because there are a lot of good teachers around already, but teacher lead by example are few and far in between. Therefore, if I want God to enter into their life, firstly I must embrace God love and have total faith and trust in Him. Now both of my children are very closed to God, they talk to Him often.

Let me share with you this conversation I got with my son in Perth. He was driving a truck to get the sofas to the disposable center and sitting next to him, I asked him,” Gabby do you sometime talk to God?” And he answered immediately,” Oh yes Mama, not only do I talk to him often, I’m talking to him now. I’m telling him my mother is sitting next to me and she is getting angry because I could not find the disposable center and she will put on a black face. Please show me the way, so she can be happy.” He continued,” I just do not know what to do, I saw the road ahead and I do not know which turn to take, so I just take the left turn and pray this is the place and my God it is!” He was so funny but Gabby still cannot write poems like Greta and me because he can’t express himself well. My daughter told me don’t try to get him write poem, by not being a materialistic person he is already on the right track in life. She sort of asks me not to push my luck to turn him into a spiritual soul.

Last year while Gabriel was in Singapore, this was what he said while we were having a bowl of noodle, “Mama why others women grow older they looked old, but you grow older and you look younger and younger.” He continued, “Honestly speaking how old are you?” I was surprised and looked up while I was having my bowl of noodle and said,” Gabby Mama never lied, I told you I am 47 years old.” He asked me what was my secret and my sincere answer to him is besides chasing my dream and ideals, my youth got to do with God’s love. Loving Him without condition and totally dedicated my life to serve Him by striving for greater humanity, in whatever way I know best to express myself is the best journey in my life?

Below is Gabby email to me when he forgot my birthday.
Date: Sun, 24 Feb 2002 00:56:35+0800
Subject: A Thousand apologizes…to the dearest woman on earth.
From: “Gabriel Georges” Libran@mac.com
To: sunflower_chong @yahoo.com

HAPPY BIRTHDAY! ! ! !

Firstly, I must thank u my lovely mum who is irreplaceable, I thx u for the air I breathe, and the food I eat n the life that I am able to enjoy……….

Secondly I must thx God 4 this amazing person.
I know that whatever I say would appear only to be a lame excuse…but in any case, I really want u to know that I really love u; n there is nothing that I would want to do to hurt or upset u.

I hope my grievous sin would be forgiven by your magnanimous soul.

Luvs always,
Gabby

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Below is the mother day well wish and at this period my relationship with Greta was at its lowest because of WHD differences.

Mother day - 2002

A very happy mother's day to my one and only SUNFLOWER...
On this day, I would like to give thanks to my strong and awesome mum whom been my everything and been constantly there for me for my entire life.... We had definitely come a long way together through thick and thin... But no matter what happens...you always find the strength and wisdom to guide me and nurture me. No matter how much damage I have done or disappointments I have given you.... you still can forgive me and make me feel so special.

Therefore, I know that Greta would never disappear from the spaces of your magnanimous heart and things would return to the way they are. I would not give anything in the world to change the way things are and would do anything to make it the way they are. I hope the words "I love you very much" and "can't thank you enough for being my mum" would be enough on this very day.

Luvs always,
Gabby

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Members True Feelings after World Harmony Day 2003

The WHD experience is just magical for everyone involved. It pushes an individual’s potential beyond their wildest imagination.

Through this journey, our spiritual-self surfaced and led us to understand our physical-self better. Especially so for Greta and Hairul because, by organising it they grew with a mind beyond their age.

Greta, besides developing her other hidden talents such as film making, writing, producing, and editing the film WHD 2003 with great enthusiasm and happiness; is working with her spiritual partner - her soul.

She has what it takes to change the behavior of youth by touching every soul, because her energy is so contagious.

As a mother I have great pride in the way she writes, especially her poems. It was so amazing to watch her grow and blossom with a burning desire to have meaning in her life. As she told me, “Mama I’m not like you, I don’t want to save the world, I just want meaning in my life and WHD gives meaning to my life that I care and I could make a different.”

I know that Greta gives me much wealth. Wealth of the Spirit of World Harmony.

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Greta Georges’s Profile

Below is an article from Sasha Shahira Programme Director Radio Heatwave Singapore School of Film and Media Studies Ngee Ann Polytechnic that summarize my daughter Greta Georges.

Dream Seeker

Amidst the chaos in the world today, a young lady stands out to show everyone her faith in the power of peace, telling us how each of us can play a part in shaping our universe into a better place.

A bubbly and hospitable young lady whose face is constantly smiling and bursting with laughter as she jokes; it is really hard to imagine that Greta Georges, 22, a seemingly cheeky and mischievous young girl at heart, could believe in such a great cause.

Her Lebanese and Chinese roots give her the sharp features that could make her stand out in any crowd. Indubitably, her poise and elegance landed her the first job as a freelance model.

Born in the state of Singapore, Greta displayed the liveliness that is but common in most 20 odd year olds. But as the interview progressed, her seriousness and that assertive attitude exhibited the maturity she possesses.

Greta is a girl who has a mind of her own and she is one who substantiates her every stand rather firmly.

The Person Behind World Harmony Day

She proves to be not all beauty and no brains when she turned her concept of World Harmony Day into an international affair. As the violent happenings around the world affect her immensely, she felt that she needed to do something instead of taking a step back and watching the world self-destruct.

Disseminating her views on peace was no simple task.

"Peace is not something that you just shout aloud. It needs to be expressed with patience and sincerity in order to encourage others to see your standpoint and agree with you."

She tells us that many people accept her ideas with great enthusiasm while an almost equal number view her dream for world peace with much skepticism. More than often, people who do not agree with her put her down. They ridicule her thoughts and actions that she hopes would bring about progress in the quest for world peace. But Greta believes in taking all negative comments with a positive light as she feels that "it is good that these people have their own stands."

"They [the masses] are entitled to their beliefs and they are the people who provide the reality check, allowing me to assess to see if I am biting off more than I can chew," says Greta.

Though the path to spread world peace has not been one without setbacks and disappointments, she embraces each failure with greater courage that she draws from her "two pillars of strength - her mother and brother".

Her mother, Sunflower Chong, had been fighting alongside with Greta since the very first day she embarked on this noble cause. The two women shared tears and laughter, literally crying over failures and triumphs together. When faced with rejections, they would encourage each other to keep that passion burning.

"My brother, although not actively involved with the World Harmony House, has always been my pillar of silent strength," says Greta.

Well, not to forget that very important person in Greta's life, whom she refers to as, "my man", Hairul.

"He has always been there," gushes Greta, her eyes sparkling. "I'm not afraid to fall, because I know he's there to catch me if I do." It was amazing to witness such dignified emotions encapsulate in this sincere lady.

An Extraordinary Youth

Considered an extrovert by many of her close friends and acquaintances, Greta enjoys meeting people and usually takes the initiative in making new friends. Getting to know strangers and communicating her ideas to them has become a part and parcel of life the day she decided to embark on her journey to support world peace and make a difference in the society.

"When certain people on the streets catch my eye, there's something that urges me to approach them," expresses Greta, "it is almost like a message from God."

Besides sharing her ideas with others, she wholeheartedly welcomes feedback to enable the exchange of ideas. Through this, Greta is "able to generate more substantial and fruitful proposals to bring about greater awareness on the issue of world peace and what the community can do to aid in its success."

Listening to the remarkable intentions, all I wondered was whether Greta feels shortchanged for what she has contributed to the world.

The young Lebanese Chinese expresses, "I have done everything I could when I was younger. There were drawing contests, modeling stints, partying … I do not feel that I'm missing out on anything and in fact, I feel that I am really living. I got tired of facing the typical stuff and decided that I could instead channel my energy into doing more meaningful things."

Rather impressive I say! Well, avoiding taking too much time of this young lady, I asked her if there was something specific that she thought that everyone should be aware of, of course besides the obvious and stringent pursuit of world peace.

She says, "In life, we live by a certain set of rules that defines who we are. Many a times, we do not question these standards but we must realize that these very standards are the ones that bind us from living. Thus, sometimes we must take a chance at something new and give with our hearts because if we do not, we will never know what we might accomplish or whom we can be. That what her girl friend Sacha summarize for all we know, each time we take a chance, we might be giving someone else an opportunity to live better."

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Greta’s Email To Her Friend Paul

I know that the attention of the world is being focused on the War in Iraq, but I just want to bring your attention to something else. There is an ongoing war in Congo that had claimed 4.7 million lives. A shame to humanity as this took far more lives than any other conflict since World War II, yet few of the western media have highlighted this and last week a thousand more massacred. Why?

Is there any vested interest here? The numbers are frightening and just imagine that a whole island of PEOPLE in Singapore systemically wiped out just like that. Some of you might have already received my email on this discussion but yes...There is much negativity in this world right now. Some say that we are going through a period that will last for 12 years. Like the fall of Atlantis when all will fall before anything can rise. What is the meaning of this all?

I think only through darkness, that we can find our own light. Only through understanding the plight of others that they have to even cue for food, for water, for fuel, for clothes and all other daily needs. That the children in Africa are sent to school without food and if they have a school at all, this makes me appreciate my Life; Give thanks to my French hip-hop and Rai on my Mac I tunes. That I have the pleasure of enjoyment, softly swaying my head without banging away on the table dying of hunger and too tired to do anything and too dirty to feel anything.

I hope that you will Find LIGHT and Most of all LOVE in your LIFE. ”Turn Your Face Towards the SUN and let all shadows of self-doubt fall behind you", I am including a poem that I have just crafted for your reading pleasure. It is about my relationship with The Almighty.

I want to DIE while you Love me
All the seafarers in combat,
Then on a WET Wednesday
The licks that hangs like a noose
Of horny sadism around their necks.
Calls to a deadly cycle of trap

I want to DIE while you Love me
The black riders coming home from Death
They proclaim "Camp Freedom"
An axe angles under the roundtable
Waiting to be unturned,
The thoughtless honor,
Talks of making torture

No Justice
No Peace
No SYSTEM
Lights here for us.

I want to die while you LOVE me
As I am a child and you are a child
The season's youth where pregnant clouds have hid
Thunder and Lighting
All you’re painful jabs
Lower and Lower it rests on my HDB flat.

I want to die while you LOVE me
Holding me closer to the forest of God's Promised Land.
Even the eastern European whores shall pass through
Licks the narcotic Nape
Rousing nascent innocence
Light sparkles in their hair

Her Justice
Her Peace
Her system
Lights here for us

Love and Lightness and Laughter
Greta

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I Had Found My Daughter And She Found God

The above article was my daughter Greta’s view on the happening around the world. Her friend Paul said that it was nice in this troubled time that she kept hope alive. His reply,

“Where is Congo? It’s a sad thing that wars are happening around the world and most of the time we don't even know, innocents die and vanish while right here we're enjoying our lives. It's quite sad that our "United Nations" are almost useless, when they're supposed to help solve conflicts and all yet there has been at least 150 wars fought since it's creation. Where's the unity? Sigh. I pray that everyone gives peace a chance.”

DO YOU ENVISAGE THE FUTURE WORLD WILL BE RULED BY FEAR OR WITH LOVE?

Across the Pacific to the Atlantic, the kiss of wind spread the seeds of humankind far and wide.
The people of purple, yellow, black and blue came too and made life come true.

Cultivating every shoot, taking care of the very first root, quenching the thirst of the land with love from their tender hands.
It is not just labored that they took but the building of a nation with strong hope.

The founding Father's unexpected revelation was mirrored in the retraction of light.
Caught the shades of dirt stained shovels.

The sweet rhythm of a brotherly click was not to be,
Virgin reunion of colors slashed out centuries of untold hate.

The order, the truth, the drive, the constitution, the rights, the laws, the amendments, the lines so perfectly drawn were now battered and soaked in innocence's blood.
Borders slain with the will of the devil in the human heart.

Then with clenched fist, each leader speaks of peace.
Exchanging balls of fatal fury, each blow inflicting horrendous pain and agony on mother earth.

Her torso tightly chained, her legs severed halt, her arms torn in scorching flames,
Shoved to the gutter and drowning in the indignity of men that went down along the curb.

Even as their deeds rape and solemnized her, she still feeds her with the last of her breath.
What self-proclaimed warriors wear behind their masks can never ever deceive God.

Together apart, right from the start, the honor is long lost.
For what beauty is there in the rainbow, when there is only one color left.

A bittersweet symphony of light after death,
Assamulaikum, Shalom, peace be upon you, blessed us God for we have sinned.

We had chosen fear over love; give us strength and wisdom to lift,
Lift the cloud of fear enshrouding our shattered windowpanes.

Bravely, brilliantly the golden sun shines through,
Rays of love and hope for a brighter tomorrow.

Greta Georges - 23 August 2002

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The above poem written by Greta was her first serious poem. I saw her changed from a care free and irresponsible girl to a conscientious and dedicated girl to fight the cause to uplift the spirit of humanity to make a different in society by changing her own mindset. Our mutual friend Wen Pui questioned Greta, why didn’t she followed her own dreams, why must she be in the shadow of others people dream. Indirectly he was trying to imply, why should Greta follow me, instead she should strike it out on her own. Wen Pui was interested in Greta and was upset because she always talked about WHD. (Most men are selfish creature.) Greta replied back to him, “WHD is a good dream and I think we all should follow this dream and make it into a reality”.

I guessed due to that conversation with Wen Pui, Greta started to pay more attention in our working relationship and I felt she tried very hard to keep her mind alert that what she is doing is what she wants and not that I put it in her head. Therefore, after this episode I tread very carefully how I say it and when I say it so she will not be suspicious about my intentions. Give you one example about her trip in America, I just email to her all those internship opportunities and leave it to God to see whether she knows how to take the initiative. This means I just support or facilitate and not telling what and how she should do it.

There is a competitive edge in her even with me, she is not very aware of it but I liked what I see because she will develop her own personality with strength and be a person of her own right. If I have raised her well she will embrace the belief and value that I strongly held. I did not say my children should follow my belief but I influenced them by sharing my thought, for example “Mama loves God and this One World He had created for us. Mama loves Singapore, which is my homeland and Mama loves Gabriel and Greta and Mama loves everybody.” And they will repeat all what I say and when it comes to everybody, I will get them to open their arms and make a circle then we hugged each other. It is so funny and it is so fun as a family. This is the beginning of the spiritual connection. These are experiences that I would love to share with young married couple because the Capitalist’s world to show love is to buy material things for the children. We must bring back the simplicity to our life.

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Below were Greta poems to me, written in a book as a gift to me on Mother’s day.

HAPPY NEW YEAR – 2003

The time has come where all our grievances end.
Start more than A Resolution, with Heartfelt Understanding.
We are Truth: Together As A Family

Love Forever
Gabby and Greta

YOUR SCENT OF A COOL SUMMERS BEWITCHING PALATE COLORS OF DREAMS TURNING INTO A TRULY GIFTED REALITY

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MOTHER – 20 January 2003

Love U 2 MUCH & ANY WORDS
2 B PENED OUT STAMP FOR RENEWAL
IS YOUR UNDYING LOVE LASTING FOREVER ‘N’ EVER
TILL WE PAINT AWAY ALL OUR SORROWS

“Man seems to be born with a debt they can never pay no matter how hard they try. It piles up ahead of them. Man owes something to Men. If he ignores the debt, it poisons and if he tries to make the payment, the debt only increases. And the quality of his gift is the measure of the man.” - John Stein Beck

Dear Mother,

On this very strange day, the messages that you get from Heaven seem to ring louder and louder. It is not as if you never heard His calls. In fact, you have been constantly ‘in touch’ with Him. Allowing all the grace and beauty flow through your very sincere and generous spirit. Only young gals want to emulate. Only men can stand from afar and wonder, “Where did she come from?” “Can she be real?’ and when they find out that, “She is as she is.”

A light did shine,

Like the beautiful daybreak that raises over the great Blue Majestic Ocean and the dazzling diamonds sparkling endlessly and effortlessly for all to see.

A light did shine,

This time where all time seemed like there was never a thing such as time. Rather the experience lifted the spirits of men, men who never thought that such beauty was even in existence. The CROWN JEWEL of the Universe.

A light did shine,

Polished by Allah’s Very Hands. This jewel He planted deep in the hearts of EVERYONE. Pure Love, Giving touch, the magician of life stirring curiosity in the people’s mind. “Tell me about Beauty!” that all cried to the Crown Jewel. “Where Can We Fined Sparkles like You?” She says, “Cultivate it”. “It is inside of you, all of you.” “My Beauty is only shinning because of Him and for Him.” A man who is at ease with himself is at ease with the world.

That most, people, ONE, did not know what they wanted,
Two, did not know how to go about getting it,
And three didn’t know when they had it.

A light did shine,

For the Sun will always rise and the flowers will bloom,
That is why you are Love, SUNFLOWER

Happy Mother’s day
Love and Light
Greta

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Have I Failed As A Mother?

Everyone who knew me called me a ‘Goner’ or ‘Gone case’ including my family and they said that I would not be able to raise my children well with the kind of thinking I have - save the world. The society equate a good parent as someone who stay at home and watch over their children besides providing all the financial aspects of life but never in nurturing their mind and soul. In the eyes of society I had already failed to be a good wife, I managed to escape from my family to be an air hostess at the age of 18 and live in Belgium and thus managed to escape the stupid Singapore rigid system that I felt trapped as an individual, and can you imagine of all men, I got married to one that I couldn’t breathe the free fresh air when I was with him - Can Die Faster, so better come back to Singapore to fight it out by trying to influence the Government fix mindset through my proposals. Don’t you agreed with me if got to die better die here in Singapore then in the Middle East, not worth it lah! Much better to die this way fighting for my cause rather than let my ex-husband beat me to death because I wanted to realize my dream for my people – help them to have the courage to speak up by me making the bold step in asking for change in a constructive manner – through proposals.

Therefore, I cannot afford to fail to be a good mother. To me good mother does not means just to be a provider, but must also provide their spiritual needs because parent and children relationship is about the soul, therefore it will be their soul that I will touch that will give happiness and meaning to their life. I will do my very utmost to raise them well, that means raise them with love for them to love the world because we have only one world belonging to all. Teach them how to share and care at a young age, if not how you expect them to grow up and know how to share and care for this one world. Tell them to put on the shoes of others, (To kill a mocking bird) before they could understand them well. The best gift every parent can give to the world is to raise his or her children well this mean raise them with love and compassion.

Both of my children are like twin. They are very closed and care a lot for each other. (Gabby first love is Greta and Greta first love is always Gabby. My first love is God, Singapore, Gabby, Greta and everybody – humanity and this mean the world.) I am so happy for Greta as she has found her anchor and that is God presence in her life. She has not embraced a religion but she embraces LOVE for humanity. “Insomuch as love grows in you so in your beauty grows. For love is the beauty of the soul” – St Augustine. This is most important then embracing a religion, as the love for humanity will be her first step into His House. May God be with my beloved daughter and son till the end of tide?

Many people felt sorry for me because in their eyes how sad for me to come to this stage where I had not arrived from where I had started? They said that I had wasted my life chasing an empty voice because in their eyes I didn’t realize my dream yet. But I don’t see it their way because it is the journey that counts and not the destination and only by going after the dream then can I find the answer. In conclusion, I was chosen to bring out the vision; the builder will be someone else and my job is to continue to work hard for the good of humanity. When my son was about 13 or 14 years old I told him about this dream of mine and that I at the end of this dream I will have to die, he said, “Mama, you are so selfish.” I asked him why did he said that. He replied, “If you die then what about Gabby and Greta?” It just hit me so hard that I almost got an electric shock. With a serious tone beyond his age he said, “It is not that you got to die but because this dream is so difficult or close to impossible to achieve because Lee Kuan Yew will not build it as he could not see it is necessary, so this means you got to sacrifice your life if you want to realize it.” He equated death in the dream as great sacrifice on my part. I am so obsessed to achieve my dream that I didn’t treat Gabby as my son but a friend, maybe this is the reason why we are so closed emotionally. He can feel me even when we are so far away, without him I do not have the courage to pulled through WHD 2002 what more to go for WHD 2003. So my son also became a kind of fortune-teller interpreting my dream ha!ha!ha! What a funny family all so crazy in a way living to see the dream be a reality. That is why this lifelong journey is so interesting because I got the whole family so deeply involved and connected - my dream became their dream and hopefully everyone dream too.

Many people advised me to forget about the society problems and be a good mother by spending more time with my children. But I told them not to worry because God will take good care of my children on my behalf. My job it to work hard to find a cure for the madness in this world. I told my son that I felt a failure because I could not realize the dream for the people, maybe the whole journey is meant to save Gabby and Greta souls. Gabby said, “Whether you could achieve it or not is secondary but the very idea that you got the courage to embark on such a mission is already a success and commendable because no one would dare to take on such a challenge.” So to all those people who kept advising me to be a good mother and asking me to stop wasting my time and money on this Government, I got this to say to all of you – I am not a stupid girl but I am working towards being a good girl, good to myself and good to the people that are around me, especially my children and most importantly good for the world. This is precisely what I am doing, trying to be a good mother by setting a good example for my children that life is not just ‘YOU’ because we got social responsibility to contribute to society in whatever way we can. I told them the wealth I am going to leave to them would be my deed and examples in the world because the money in the bank does not measure my self-worth but what I have left behind do and if they do not know how to receive this wealth or gift then just too bad because the others children will do so.

When the children were young we still sleep together in the same bed and we love to chat and we talk about everything that is under the sun. One day Greta said it is nice to have dream like Mama. Gabby immediately said, “Greta you dream and I dream is different when Mama dreams. When you dream the next morning you will forget what the dream is all about, but when Mama dreams it is dangerous because she will chase this dream, she will never let go instead she just follow the spirit!” It was so funny when I heard him spoke with such emotion but it was so true about me. My son knew me more then I know myself when he said that about me.

Gabby always said that I was young and beautiful and I answered back it was because I still lived for my ‘Dream and Ideal’. The children said that I was a mother already why do I still chase dreams? I told them it did not mean after being a mother my personal aspiration must ceased to exist. Similarly, it does not mean I am old I should not make an effort to look beautiful. I am a beautiful human being, with my Right to do what I want with my life, as long as I fulfilled my duty as a mother.

I told my children to hold tight to their dream whatever it might be and never lose sight of their dream, thus they will lose the passion to dream to make it to reality. The only difference is that I don’t just sit and day dream, instead I work tirelessly and endlessly to make my dream a reality no matter how costly it is going to be. Moreover, if my dream becomes a reality it will benefit society as a whole, so why should I give it up for security sake. I often wonder what will happen to me if I ever give up all I have believed in my entire life? I think I will be a dead Soul!! Most importantly, I wanted to achieve all my goals without compromising my values and belief system. That means to be what I am and who I am. I have lived fully my life as I have set out to do what I wanted to achieve as a young child, and naturally I accept death as part of the natural circle of life. Hence, I’m ready to leave this world. However, if you have not loved fully or followed your dreams, death comes hard because you want more time to fulfill yourself and achieve your destiny? So don’t idol with your time, seize every minute of it and make it work for you to live a rich life, so when you leave this world, you leave a happy world behind.

I am very thankful to have my two beautiful children, Gabriel and Greta besides me in spirit and presence. (I gave them the capital ‘G’ for God, so this means they are God’s children) Even though they were both very young, their love, understanding and encouragement for me have helped me to achieve my dreams and aspirations for the people. They have given me a lot of comfort and joy in my life and thus make my life meaningful. They do not want to see me hurt or to be taken advantage of. They wanted me to remember that I’m just an ordinary person; therefore, I must know my own limitation.

Greta often gives me great encouragement and after reading all her poems, you know why I must go on pursuing this impossible dream whatever it might be. I remembered when Greta was at the age of 17 years old, one night, she came back so excited and shouted, “Mama my lecturer asked the whole class what we have learn from the lesson about ourselves, I told him I had learn nothing about myself, but I saw you and now I understand you better and why you need to chase your dream?” I asked her what do you mean by that - you saw me? She attended a class, which the lecturer asked them to look at the TV box and see from inside and inside and inside. At the end of the lecture, the lecturer asked, “What have you learnt about yourselves.”

Greta called me a genius and spoke about Plato and Socrates and she said that her lecturer said that those people who can find the answer while others could not is because of their connection to God. She asked me at what age I have all these high ideals and when did I talk to God. This episode with her was the turning point in developing her interest in the spiritual world and into humanities and politics. With such admiration for me she asked my guidance for a title for her thesis, so I said why not “Is ASEAN a credible body”? I told her no one in her class will choose such a topic, so why don’t she made an attempt to push her potential. Her lecturer gave her a thumb up for her paper. Then after this paper, I got her to participate in the Japan Airline competition and that was how Greta and I became so close – ASEAN Talk consumed our life and Gabby was often left out in the discussion. Gabby was watching both of us and he said, ”Greta you are getting more and more like your Mother.” She replied, “I am proud to be compared to my mother because I want to be like her and chase my dreams and look young like her when I grow old.”

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Poems from The SOUL

I stand so tall in their eyes, so how could I face them if I ever give up all my dreams and aspirations I so strongly believe in. Even if I did not succeed, it is still all right as Gabby said that the very thought that I dared to embark by bringing out all my thoughts in the open I have already succeeded. He continued to say, “Mama your son is not capable to help you to realize your dream, but I am sure out there, someone will make it a reality one day.” I’m their strength and example to emulate; they are my reasons why I must keep on going till I found the answer to a better life for all. Below were Greta poems of great encouragements, compile in a special ‘sunflower’s book’ that I hope will enlighten everyone, because it had enlightened my soul.

“Stretching your hands to catch the stars,
you never forgot the flowers at your feet.” – Inspired by Jeremy Bentham

All with your tender care,
I can never forget…
The days are; will never be lost
For deep in my heart
You are my one and only precious Mother

Greta 2002

Sugar Rush following through the veins of Butterflies,
Free and not yet Captured in the Great instant of no time.
An ultimate High you send in to me,
I never even think of Caffeine or Coffee,
Just our Conversations Stimulate me.
Bubbling on the tip of my mind,
Mom, I LOVE and adore you as you tuck that strand behind
I will always follow thee through
The good and Bad times

Love
By Greta Georges – 20-9-2002

“It is not easy to find Happiness in Ourselves,
And it is not possible to find it elsewhere” – Agnes Repplier

Home is our place where you cook with grace
Happiness and joy we make and create
Music trails lightly as the sound of laughter
Always never fails to light up all our smiling face,
To this date the gatherings: live in all time and space

Greta 2002

“Shoot for the moon.
Even if you miss it,
You will land among Stars” – Les Brown

Your adventure had only began,
The fruits of your labor already bear signs of success.
Your labor of LOVE
Can and never will be forgotten by the generation
Of leaves like Gaby and me

Greta 2002

“If there be righteousness in the heart,
There will be beauty in character.
If there will be beauty in character,
There will be harmony in the home.
I there be harmony in the home,
there will be order in the nation.
There will be peace in the world “ – Confucius

You saw this seed of peace first in your heart,
Friends and family can only feel your warmth and love from within.
Your care and concern shines bright.
A spirit with might,
No battle that you can’t fight.
Peace on your soul,
I wanna learn how to grow.
A special place in my heart,
Is where I will keep your values and forever hold?

Greta 2002

“The fun is in the trip, not the destination” – Robert Bloch

Wherever you are going,
The thrill of the journey beckons and calls onto you.
Like the pyramid of ancient times,
You will rise in all of your grace and in your fiery mind.
Dreams do take place,
They can and never will be erased as you breath.
Your Sunflower light into a peaceful place

Greta - 2002

“Laughter is the best medicine” – A person once said.

The serious problems in our lives can never be fully solved.
When we constantly worry about,
The endless woes that tomorrow may bring.
The solution if I may present,
Is in your laughter.
For a man shows his character,
By what he laughs at?
You can only be more than a woman

Greta 2002

“Today I fish for its own sake, in anticipation,
but without disappointment” – Stephen Bowkett

By the Riverbank,
The fluid of emotions gushes thru
and by and by with the tide of time,
the fisherman will bath in
all the glory of not catching a fish
but watching the pebbles shuffle and
slap, the crabs crawl and hide
under an oyster bed where little seahorse come to play

Greta 2002

“We shall not cease from exploration
And the end of all our exploring
Will be to arrive where we started
And know the place for t

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