How to Love Your Children

I have never met a parent who didn’t say that they love their children. Every parent will say they love their children. But the harsh reality is that a lot of them don’t. They use their children to love themselves.
They feel love for their children, but they don’t really love them. Instead of loving a child enough to let them do hard things they can learn from, they won’t let their children do hard things. They save them from doing hard things, not because it is too hard for the child, but because it is too hard for them to watch their child do hard things.
Instead of holding their child accountable for the mistakes they make, they blame it on other people, and they release their child from accountability. Not because it is too hard on the child, but because it is too hard for them to watch their child be held accountable. What they don’t realize, or sometimes they do realize, when they do this they are failing to love their child.
When this child becomes an adult, they will say I don’t know how to love, I am struggling to love, I am struggling in my relationships, and I never really felt love as a child. But you have this parent saying I loved them all along. It causes a lot of confusion and makes it hard to heal.
It would be better if these parents would say, “I am sorry I failed to love you. But if I am going to fight to love you from here going forward.”
Think about it.
Trust God’s Word no matter what, because His word is truth.

Keep your eyes on the horizon.

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Kenny Vaughan