Kids need a healthy balance of respect & fear

Kids need to be taught respect and fear for good balance. If you love your kids, don't soft parent them so they're mouthy, disrespectful, and lacking gratitude. Fail your kids, and they find out in real life as adults that after you've destroyed your relationship with them, life will beat the living crap out of them. Parenting must balance respect and fear but always lead with love. Some kids require more of one than the other, but both must always exist.