If You Are a People Pleaser/Nice Guy, Watch This...

By being a people pleaser and a "NICE" person you are actually being fake.

Whenever you are "NICE" it's not authentic and you are essentially being nice to get something in return. It's like a business deal/transaction.

It's way different from being kind, as when you are kind, you do not expect anything in return.

But being a people pleaser/nice person; you are expecting something in return.

So the act of people pleasing stems from not receiving what you want by being your true self. It's like throughout your childhood, you wouldn't have met your needs by being your true self, and that's why you start putting on this fake persona such as being "NICE" and pleasing other people to be liked, loved, appreciated, etc.

So the only way to get out of this cycle is to heal from the trauma that is attached to being your true self, heal from past experiences, let go of them, and start being comfortable in your own skin. By doing this, you can express yourself completely without fearing judgment and be more authentic, instead of being a people pleaser.