The Couple Who Changed How I Relate: Lessons from the Godparents of Love

#376: The Couple Who Changed How I Relate: Lessons from the Godparents of Love

In this episode, I have the absolute honor of welcoming legendary relationship experts Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt. I had to pinch myself when I met them – it was a full circle moment for me. I found Harville and Helen’s work at a time in my life when I was deeply confused about relationships. I didn't know why I was so good at talking about everything but my feelings. I didn't know why I chose the people I chose or was the way I was. Harville and Helen’s work and their book gave me context to my personal relational patterns and a framework for relating better.

In this episode, Harville and Helen discuss the transformative power of dialogue in relationships and the importance of curiosity and open-mindedness. We explore the complexities of emotional healing and self-awareness in relationships, the concept of unconscious attraction in romantic partnerships, and how childhood needs and experiences shape adult behaviors and relationships. Tune in for a profound conversation that will surely impact the way you relate in your life moving forward.

Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D. are co-creators of Imago Relationship Therapy and a social movement called Safe Conversations. Internationally respected as couple’s therapists, educators, speakers, activists, and New York Times bestselling authors, their 10 books, including the timeless classic, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, have sold more than 4 million copies. Harville appeared on the Oprah Winfrey television program 17 times! Helen was installed in the Women’s Hall of Fame and the Smithsonian Institute. They have six children and eight grandchildren.

—Harville & Helen’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/harvilleandhelen/
—Harville & Helen’s Website: https://harvilleandhelen.com/
—Harville & Helen’s Website | Safe Conversations: https:/quantumconnections.com
—Harville & Helen’s Website | Imago Relationship: https://imagorelationships.org/
—Harville & Helen’s Book: Getting the Love You Want: https://harvilleandhelen.com/books/getting-the-love-you-want/
—Still Face Experiment: Dr. Edward Tronick: https://youtu.be/vmE3NfB_HhE?si=QivHWP9_jREexK3s&t=34

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Themes: Authenticity, Belonging, Relationships, Boundaries, Self-Worth, Self-Love, Codependency, Dating, Attachment Theory, Transformation, Conflict, Parenting, Mental Health, Dialogue, Curiosity, Childhood Experiences, Unconscious Attraction, Relationship Development, Self-Awareness, Self-Care, Collaboration, Relationship Experts, Harville Hendricks, Helen Hunt

0:00:00 Intro
0:03:57 Dialogue for World Change
0:06:01 The Historical Significance of Dialogue
0:14:54 The Structure of Dialogue
0:20:52 The Impact of the Still Face Experiment
0:22:08 The View of Human Nature
0:26:43 The Rupture in Human Connection
0:32:43 The Essence of Being in Relationships
0:36:37 Importance of Teaching Relationship Skills
0:40:52 Unconscious Associations and Negative Impacts
0:52:04 Romantic Attraction and Illusions
0:53:23 Transition to Power Struggle
1:03:18 Principles of Real Love
1:13:45 Embracing Dialogue and Love in Daily Life

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