SELF CONTROL in Relationships | Self-regulation & Emotional Intelligence

Self-regulation is a facet of emotional intelligence. It is the ability to engage control over our own thoughts, emotions, and impulses. It is at the heart of healthy and mature relationships.

If our relationships are to survive, we need to develop a capacity to pause when we are faced with a difficult thought or feeling. Take some time to consider it before we act, so that we can decide what might be the best way forward.

Steps For Developing Self-Regulation

1. Tune in to the moment. Pay attention to what is going on inside you. Are you thinking negative thoughts? Is there tension in your body? Notice such things without judgement. Practice mindful breathing as this will help you gain some space around the thoughts or feelings.

2. Practice cognitive reframing. This involves changing thought patterns which threaten to create bad feelings towards a more positive emotional outcome.

3. Start to increase your awareness and understanding that in every moment you have a choice in how you think, feel and therefore behave. It might feel as though this is not true, but it is. The more we show up and take responsibility for what we are bringing to the moment, the more empowered we are to act in healthy ways.

▼ Chapters ▼
0:00 – 0:17 Intro
0:17 – 1:08 Stable & Secure Relationships
1:08 – 1:36 Self-Regulation
1:36 – 2:39 Parental Regulation
2:39 – 3:26 Adult Dysregulation
3:26 – 3:45 Learning Self Regulation
3:45 – 4:04 Tune In
4:04 – 4:26 Cognitive Reframing
4:26 – 4:56 Take Responsibility
4:56 – 5:23 Conclusion

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