Poetry - In My Own Skin

We all go through difficult times in our lives.

We all suffer from anxiety & dysphoria of various descriptions at some point in our lives, especially through our childhood & teen years, into our 20's, & sometimes beyond, some sadly lifelong.

Only through accepting & loving ourselves, our "flaws", only by being confident in ourselves, and our bodies & our differences, despite their imperfections, and being ok with that, standing up for ourselves & our imperfections, knowing there is sooooo much more to you, than those imperfections, and proving that, can you reduce the fear.

The "Fear" of not being loved. The "Fear" of not being accepted. The "Fear" of missing out. The "Fear" of being wronged. The "Fear" of not being "perfect". The "Fear" of loss. The "Fear" of being betrayed. The "Fear" of being seen as "ugly". The "Fear" of being seen as too nice or too mean. The "Fear" of being hated, abandoned. The "Fear" of being poor. The "Fear" of Soooo Much More.

This fear & dysphoria is brought on by so many people, media, social media, magazines, regularly being ignored or missing out, being betrayed by liars and low moraled people & so much more. The "Fear" in one way or another, causes almost all of the dysphoria and anxieties.

Being put into a state of constant comfort based on comforting lies & false or forced acceptance, to keep the peace, will never get rid of your dysphoria and anxieties, in fact, over time, it will make it much worse! It makes it worse, because, deep down, you know it, you feel the fear, you feel the self-hatred, you feel the lack of self-acceptance!

The only way to “Clear the Fear”, is Not to avoid your “Triggers”! It is to Learn to love & accept yourself, which includes your “flaws”, your “imperfections” & love them, even when no-one else on the planet does or will. You can choose to work on improving them, to your standards, not anothers, if you wish.

When you love & accept yourself – “flaws”, “imperfections” & all, other peoples cruel words about them shall no longer trigger you, because your self-confidence, comes from your self-love!

When you have put your broken & hidden pieces together, and made yourself “whole”, you will no longer be “Triggered” so easily. Being alone, meditation, art, journalling, writing, and other therapies, will reveal pain & inner “Truths” you never knew & the mean people & control freaks & disaster lovers & war lovers, or this world, never want you to discover.

Strength comes from surviving & learning from adversity & difficulty - Not from avoiding & hiding from it or covering it up with drugs, comforting lies or forcing others to falsely change their thoughts & behaviors to accommodate your sensitivities which stem from your own self-hatred!

I understand, this may be triggering for some, but until you heal yourself, you will always be easily triggered by differences of thought & opinion & blame others, instead of understanding that everyone is different, carrying their own, individual, hurt, pain, issues & triggers!

Face your "triggers" - Don't spend your life avoiding them! Learn from where they stem & work your way the "jungle of difficulty" to fix it!

I wish you well, in your self-love & self-discovery journey! It's a long, hard, difficult road, but you will discover - the pain & tears, will be worth it, in the end!