THE CAUSE OF THE DIVORCE - SAM (Censored by Rumble)

Hello Sam,
READ THE WHOLE THING, I DON'T CARE IF YOU ARE EFFECTIVELY ILLITERATE, READ THE WHOLE THING, MAKE TIME FOR IT, IT'S IMPORTANT. 
(do not complain/obsess that i have just insulted you, you told me yourself you can't even read long emails, the characterization is valid. I do not insult you or swear at you even once in this email, if you feel insulted, it is only because i am correctly analyzing the situation, which makes you look very bad, and you ARE at fault)
If this is too much to read, i will make an audiotape version of this email, and affix it to the next reply i send.

Please note i will be transitioning to the included email here in the sent list, this will become my main email, the other two, one is a paid email i will be allowing to lapse, the cost is way too high for basically a normal gmail, the other is glitched, it no longer works....
The texts, Please reply to these in email form, because your behavior is becoming totally unacceptable, your total refusal to hold jialin to account for anything she had done, whatsoever, coupled with blaming me and "my behavior" for 100% of the problem,  this is no longer acceptable, you will stop now, it has been three years of this sick parody, the marriage is now in ruins because you did that so much, if you wish to have an amicable family relationship with me. It is totally unacceptable, you will stop now.
You will either pick up the phone and lecture jialin on her bad behavior, and how she is contributing to this, you will tell her she needs to change her behavior and do her part to fix things. 
Or you will stop putting the blame all on me.
Ie: you will stop telling me i need to change,  unless it's a two way street you're gonna shutup about that if you don't want a bunch of personal attacks and insults and swears to start flowing again.
This is not helping the situation,  at all.
It is making things a lot worse, jialin is surrounded by people like you, yes men who tell her she has done no wrong, she believes you.
I have tried for 3 years to fix this, and you put 100% of the responsibility and blame on me to fix it, scapegoating me, because you are obsessed with this being all my fault, nothing actually gets solved. It can't when you put it all on me, it angers me for one thing, which makes things worse, jialin believes you when you say these things, so she does nothing to fix it, and she is the only one who actually CAN fix it. I can't, i have tried for three years. I have done everything i can possibly do.
Thanks to you and people like you filling Jialin's head with this garbage, the blameless angel does nothing to repair the situation, why should she, she's a blameless angel who can do no wrong, and the devil who must change his heart, until i am a completely different person who will never exist.
You need to completely change your thinking on this, you have been ass backwards for three years on this issue, you are making it worse by doing this, you are making it impossible to solve, i need you to stop now. 
Never tell me i need to change my behavior into a different person to fix this, unless it is coupled with the following statement:
"I called jialin and asked her to explain her behavior towards me, take ownership of her side of this, and do her part to fix it and change things."
THEN you can tell me to change my behavior. 
I heard you the first 500 times,You are obsessed with blaming me in this situation,  you are incapable of seeing anyone else's behavior at all, you just see the big shiny elvis and you are telling him his horrible music is ruining everything and its all my fault, it's not, i heard you the first 500 times, now pick up the phone and tell it to jialin, ok?
If you can't do that, please shutup about my behavior, permanently, i heard you the first 500 times, you are wrong, and you are obsessed.
My music is also not an excuse for anything whatsoever. 
If a murderer hears my songs and kills someone, that is on him not me. That is his fault, not mine. 
Now, if jialin hears my songs, and steals my baby, that's all on her, my music excuses NOTHING. ZERO. IT IS A JUSTIFICATION FOR NOTHING. NONE OF IT, ZERO. YOU CANNOT BLAME MY MUSIC, it's ridiculous, and again you are just obsessed with blaming me, because you hate my music.
That is all that's been happening for three years. 
You were in charge of fixing the relationship and mediating for a long time, almost 2 years, in that time, you did nothing but this, treat jialin like perfect angel who can do no wrong, and blame everything on me because you hate my music.
It is not an exaggeration to say, your behavior in this regard, has prevented a solution for being discovered. Because you will not put one cent of onus on jialin to fix or change anything,  you put all of it on me, i spend 3 years in a vacuum trying to fix the relationship, and somehow at the end, you still put it all on me.
Notice you are doing this and STOP.You are ruining any possibility of fixing this when you do that, three years of this, foolishness, has basically destroyed any hope of fixing this relationship. Because the angel is perfect,  the devil does all sinful things, the devil is to blame for all evil, the angel is perfect. 
This stupidity is why we have not arrived at a solution, Sam. It is more your fault, to be frank, than it is mine.
I have done everything i could think of to fix it.
Jialin NECESSARILY must be the one to pick up the phone and fix it.
I almost killed myself 4 times because of her actions. You don't even care, it is as irrelevant to you as self-determination is to the borg.
I almost died 4 times.
Stop blaming me for everything, man. Its crazy obsessive behavior, it is not a stretch to say, if you had not done that, and had been more evenhanded, and impartial in these negotiations,  we would be in a better place right now. You have significantly contributed to the deterioration of this marriage, both before and after she left. If you had not approached things this way, and had been fair, or even maybe taking my side, probably the marriage would have been fixed by now.
I blame you, Sam.
Here are the texts, please reply:
"Sam stop telling me to change my behavior, That is just blaming me,Stop blaming me.
Unless you want jialin to change her behavior too,And this as big an issue or bigger than it is with me.
When you say that you are just blaming me for everything again, in a vacuum, as if everything is my fault.
Stop doing that.Either pair it with some criticsm of jialin in equal amounts,Or else stop blaming me for everything,  because you're doing it again.
Now compare and contrast. Imagine i behaved like jialin did, i am constantly hitting her, i am on the phone with other women, every single day as she begs me to stop, i hit her for doing this. I steal all her money, and go off SOMEWHERE all night long 23 times in two years. After being accused of cheating which is what i am doing, i pick up a weapon and attempt to hurt her. Then i take the child, run away, break off all contact, and will not even send her a photo of her own child, because she is so horrible for whatever she has done in this situation, primarily she is making music, the motive for most of my abusive behavior. She tries to kill herself 4 times because of this.
Let's assume I'm not in jail for acting like jialin, which i would be, guaranteed. 
You then walk in and say this to her. Jialin you need to change your behavior towards Brendan, your three years of emails begging to see your son, are abusive, because you at times become angry at this ridiculous situation. 
Jialin stop making songs on YouTube, i can can understand why brendan stole your child, Jialin, that music is awful. 
Do you see how Parody like this becomes when you do a role reversal here.
Not only would you see things differently, i would be in jail, day 1.
I am now requesting you STOP BLAMING ME FOR EVERYTHING. it's absurd. This attitude is why i am no longer speaking to Johnny anymore. 
You only see me,You do not see anyone else,You put all the blame on me,Ignore all the context,And don't even consider other people's behavior as mattering. 
It is becoming intolerable, man.I'm sick of being the scapegoat. Stop blaming me for everything. 
Unless you are willing to condemn Jialin in equal measure, for her behavior as well.
And that means picking up the phone, calling her and telling her this is all or mostly or at least half her fault....
I do not want to hear i need to change my behavior. 
That is just you blaming me for everything. 
Callup jialin, and tell her off. Ok?
If you can't do that,Stop putting all the blame on me.
Im sick of it.You're obsessed. 
You cannot see anyone else in this situation, you only see me....
You magnify everything i do with a microscope, you throw out 100% of what jialin has done. Which is way worse than what i did.
It is as absurd as it is insulting. 
A: talk as much about Jialin's role in this, as you do about me, call her and tell her she needs to change her behavior and step up and actually try to fix things for once in three years.Then you can say the same to me and i will listen this time. A two way street, not a scapegoat, called my music.
B: Stop blaming me for everything, just say nothing, effectively no one is at fault, not me not her, do not blame either of us.
Pick one of those two.
If you cannot call her up, and tell her the things she has done to me are horrible and she needs to make it right. 
Do not dare tell me for the 500th time i need to change my behavior. 
It's insulting, it's wrong, it's unfair, it's hypocritical, it does not help the situation AT ALL.
STOP BLAMING ME FOR EVERYTHING. 
OR PICK UP THE PHONE, CONDEMN JAILIN LIKE YOU DO TO ME, TELL HER SHE NEEDS TO STEP UP AND FIX IT, AND THEN YOU CAN DO THE SAME TO ME. 
I have removed John from my life because he will not stop doing this. Understand you are doing this, and stop, ok?
If you can't make that phonecall, i do not wanna hear i need to change my behavior for the 500th time in 3 years, and jialin is just an angel who can never be criticised.
What she did to me is worse, there is no comparison. Stop doing it. Stop insulting me, stop being a hypocrite, take your blinders off, stop blaming me.
Why do i take all the blame, What she did is so much worse, Before AND after the breakup. You are obsessed with this being my fault, it is inconceivable to you to imagine treating Jialin like this, and she is so much worse, there is no comparison. 
Stop blaming me,For 5 seconds,And you will notice this immediately. "
I blame you, Sam,I heard you the first 500 times sam,I note you have never once done this to jialin,That's WHY i blame you.
You're supposed to be on my side, failing that you should have at least been impartial (weird for family to do but better than nothing), instead you have wasted three years, and effectively ruined the marriage, by being a yes man for jialin. 
You filled her head with this crap.That is why she has never tried to fix it once. I blame you for the marriage falling apart.I don't blame her, you filled her head with this crap for 3 years, she believes it.That is why nothing has been solved.
Now pick up the phone, Call jialin, And blame her for her part in this debacle.(The lions share by the way)
As i know this is inconceivable to you,I'm giving you another option. Never blame me again, never tell me i need to fix my behavior (ie: become someone else) i heard you the first 500 times, stop doing it, or if you really want to, pickup the phone and blame jialin "first" then we can talk about blaming me some more. 
You actually think you're helping, man.
You're not,You're making things so much worse by filling her head with this crap,I believe the marriage is now unrecoverable. 
Thanks a lot,- Brendan 
PS: i don't care if you hate my songs, shutup about it, never bring up my music again, unless it is to tell me you liked a song (ie: never). Music justifies nothing, zero, absolutely nothing, music does not excuse any bad behavior whatsoever.  It is 100% irrelevant. You just think it's super important because you grew up in the 70s and never heard music like this before. If elvises songs do not excuse a bank robbery, then my songs do not excuse cheating, stealing, infidelity, abuse, abusive behavior, violence, attempted murder, and kidnapping my child for 3 years without a court order. You fill her head with this crap, wax poetic about how horrible my emails are to her, she believes you, and the marriage is destroyed now, Sam. If i had done what she did i would be in jail, end of story. My music is an excuse for nothing, the fact you think it is, is ridiculous, its a sick joke, it would be funny it's wasn't so stupid, if the misery you have caused by doing this had not resulted in 4 serious,  some very bloody, suicide attempts. I blame you, Sam. I heard you the first 500 times, you're wrong, actually its your fault. And if you think that's unfair, then why did you do it to me 500 times in 3 years. Stop doing that. It's not my fault, stop blaming me. You've blamed me for three years unfairly, you filled Jialin's head with this crap, she now thinks I'm the devil, it's your fault the marriage is ruined.
Also if you had not moved us for a third time in 2 months, when she was pregnant, while insisting we sell everything in garage sales for you. The stress of that alone was 75% of the breakup. The rest was fear it was not my child, created by your stupid mission to look after aine for a week in January 2021, the week she got pregnant, approximately. This caused me to question whether it was my child or not, which caused jialin to out of anger (I THINK) to repeatedly tell me it was not my kid, whenever i asked, rather implying it was not, (I THINK) because she was so furious i was asking at all.
That is 99% of the breakup, Sam.You caused all of that, However i do not blame you for that,I blame you for filling her head with this shit, blaming me and my songs for everything, she believed you,  and the marriage is ruined now. "It is" your fault.
If you had not done all of that, i would probably be with my baby right now, and no blood would have been shed.
So if you, say one more time, my work as a musician is to blame, or my behavior in a vacuum is to blame, and you have not called jialin to blame her for her share in this, i will take a knife, fly to Ireland, and murder all your bunnies and cats, i will acquire a gun and shoot your fuckin dog . Stop blaming me, actually it's your fault, Sam, definitely stop blaming me, that is LITERALLY what ruined the marriage.