Why Dating Matters | RIOT Podcast Ep 119 | Christian Podcast

On today’s podcast, we are going to discuss How dating matters? on RIOT Podcast, a Christian Discipleship Podcast.

In honor of Valentine's Day this week in the United States, we thought we'd do a show about ways to date your spouse or, for those who are single, your girlfriend or boyfriend. When most people think of "dating," they envision pre-engagement fun filled with long talks, throbbing hearts, and flower bouquets. But, who says it has to end after engagement "or, for that matter, after marriage?

What is the purpose of dating? “A purpose”, according to Merriam-Webster, is "something set up as an object or end to be attained." A purpose defines the ultimate goal, destination, or intended outcome of an action.

If your ultimate goal is having a great relationship, then dating should be a part of your purpose. While Christ-centered intimacy is the great prize in marriage, Christ-centered clarity is the great prize in dating. In the context of marriage between a man and woman, intimacy is the safest, and marriage is safest in the context of clarity. We must date to get married and date to stay married if we want to have and enjoy a Christ-centered intimacy.

We know the person we are dating best, and because of this, we can hold them accountable. Dating is a time to get to know each other better and to focus on how we can elevate one another. It is not to focus on how bad each other is, but on how Good God is, and how together, you can grow in Holiness.

If you are not married and you want to grow in Holiness together, practice self-discipline by setting and keeping boundaries. Always show compassion and forgiveness toward each other. Practice patience with each other and look for ways to complement each other. Display the gospel to others through your relationship, and be a light to others.

The longer you date someone, the more you’ll know how to love them really well. You learn their love language. For instance, how hugs make them happy, so you go out of your way to give them a quick embrace before anything else happens on the date. Learn their love languages and sacrifice what you want first to focus on them. If you both do this the date will be unbelievable.

What are love languages? Time, Touch, Words, gifts, service.

Do you want to keep your romance fiery and fresh after the wedding cake has been eaten and the thank-you notes delivered? Now that we established our purpose in why we date, let’s explore some great ways to date our significant other!

Hebrews 10:24-25 “24 Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works. 25 And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near.”

The first step to dating your spouse is commitment. After all, commitment is what marriage is about! So, commit to doing something fun with each other regularly. This can look any way you want it. Always plan one date a week, you don’t have to be stuck on a certain day unless your schedule demands it. The bottom line is to make it a priority, not an every once in a while, sort of thing.

Communication, along with sex and money, is one of the top three reasons that marriages go south. Creating space for healthy communication is important! Dates are the perfect opportunity for you and your spouse to reconnect.

Spend time talking so that you can keep acquainted and stay in touch with each other’s lives! Don’t stare at your phones or always go to the movies to avoid conversation. Get face-to-face! Always bring your conversations to spiritual things, and always ask yourself what God wants in your discussions. A relationship is stronger when they work together but it’s even stronger when they have God as their leader.

To wrap up all that we discussed “We will look at how God's action in our lives can shape our approach to dating and how we can use it to build healthy, God-honoring relationships. Through scripture and conversations with Christian thought leaders, we will delve into topics such as getting to know yourself, developing meaningful connections, and honoring God in the process”.

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