BPD Relationship Problem: You Don't Exist If I Can't See You (Out of Sight, Out of Love)

Complex Borderline Personality Disorder: How Coexisting Conditions Affect Your BPD and How You Can Gain Emotional Balance. Available at:
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In this video, we’re going to discuss emotional permanence which is the feelings of abandonment, rejection, and emptiness that you feel when someone you love and trust cannot be physically present or immediately contacted. I will also go over 5 techniques I use with my clients to overcome this issue and build a healthy, secure and trusting relationship.

Many individuals with BPD have a difficulty emotionally understanding that an object, or person you love and trust, exists when they cannot see them, or talk to them. This is related to an impairment in development to attain object constancy, which is a cognitive skill we typically acquire at around two to three years old. It is the understanding that objects continue to exist even when they cannot be seen, touched, or contacted in some way. These objects are called you’re “trusted objects” and often include your boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse, parent, friend, therapist, etc. For those with BPD it’s called a lack of emotional permanence because it relates to the emotional despair you feel when that trusted object is not visible or cannot be reached immediately.

Developing emotional permanence is not easy, there’s no pill for it. It’s a complex issue, but so important to your development beyond BPD and to do it differently and have a secure relationship with not only trusted others, but with yourself as well. Leave me feedback about this video and how you have developed emotional permanence in your world.

Daniel J. Fox, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in Texas, international speaker, and a multi-award-winning author. He has been specializing in the treatment and assessment of individuals with personality disorders for over 20 years in the state and federal prison system, universities, and in private practice. His specialty areas include personality disorders, ethics, burnout prevention, and emotional intelligence.

He has published several articles in these areas and is the author of:

Complex Borderline Personality Disorder: How Coexisting Conditions Affect Your BPD and How You Can Gain Emotional Balance. Available at:
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Antisocial, Narcissistic, and Borderline Personality Disorders: A New Conceptualization of Development, Reinforcement, Expression, and Treatment. Available at: https://tinyurl.com/2anv8dww

The Borderline Personality Disorder Workbook: An Integrative Program to Understand and Manage Your BPD. Available at: https://goo.gl/LQEgy1

Antisocial, Borderline, Narcissistic and Histrionic Workbook: Treatment Strategies for Cluster B Personality Disorders (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Gold Award Winner): https://goo.gl/BLRkFy

Narcissistic Personality Disorder Toolbox: 55 Practical Treatment Techniques for Clients, Their Parents & Their Children (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Silver Award Winner):: https://goo.gl/sZYhym

The Clinician’s Guide to Diagnosis and Treatment of Personality Disorders: https://goo.gl/ZAVe9v

Dr. Fox has given numerous workshops and seminars on ethics and personality disorders, personality disorders and crime, treatment solutions for treating clients along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum, emotional intelligence, managing mental health within the prison system, and others. Dr. Fox maintains a website of various treatment interventions focused on working with and attenuating the symptomatology related to individuals along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum (www.drdfox.com).

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