BPD and Toxic Relationships: What You Need to Know

BPD and Toxic Relationships

Complex Borderline Personality Disorder: How Coexisting Conditions Affect Your BPD and How You Can Gain Emotional Balance. Available at:
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When you saw the topic you probably thought I was going to talk about only interpersonal relationships, the relationship between you and someone else, but I’m not, I’m also going to talk about intrapersonal relationships, the relationship you have with yourself. I think you’ll be surprised how similar in pain and process these two aspects really are.

Relationships can often feel like a double-edged sword. You want to be close and open but you’re afraid to so you push the emotions and/or the other person away, but when they start to dissolve or step back your rejection sensitivity gets activated, followed by fear and frustration which causes you to engage in those maladaptive beliefs, behaviors, and patterns that help keep your BPD symptomatology in place.

A toxic relationship is one that makes you feel unsupported, misunderstood, demeaned, or attacked. Essentially, it’s any relationship that makes you feel worse rather than better. I’m going to talk about the 10 common factors that make up toxic internal and external relationships.
1. Lack of support
2. Toxic communication
3. Resentment
4. Dishonesty
5. Patterns of disrespect
6. Feel unsafe and don’t trust yourself or the other person.
7. You feel neglected or exploited by your own actions that encourage your self-perspective of low value and the other person treats you and support this negative aspect of yourself.
8. You feel lost, don’t know who you are
9. Feel belittled and ashamed
10. Judgment instead of open-mindedness

Some of these may have been hard to hear, acknowledge, and write down but this is important for your growth. Did you end up with more for the ME column or the other column, or both? Knowing if it’s a toxic interpersonal or intrapersonal relationship or not can help you to determine if changes need to be made to the relationship or if it’s time to end the relationship with the other and really get into strengthening that relationship you have with yourself and detoxify it.

Daniel J. Fox, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in Texas, international speaker, and a multi-award winning author. He has been specializing in the treatment and assessment of individuals with personality disorders for over 15 years in the state and federal prison system, universities, and in private practice. His specialty areas include personality disorders, ethics, burnout prevention, and emotional intelligence.

He has published several articles in these areas and is the author of:

Complex Borderline Personality Disorder: How Coexisting Conditions Affect Your BPD and How You Can Gain Emotional Balance. Available at:
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Antisocial, Narcissistic, and Borderline Personality Disorders: A New Conceptualization of Development, Reinforcement, Expression, and Treatment. Available at: https://tinyurl.com/2anv8dww

The Borderline Personality Disorder Workbook: An Integrative Program to Understand and Manage Your BPD. Available at: https://goo.gl/LQEgy1

Antisocial, Borderline, Narcissistic and Histrionic Workbook: Treatment Strategies for Cluster B Personality Disorders (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Gold Award Winner): https://goo.gl/BLRkFy

Narcissistic Personality Disorder Toolbox: 55 Practical Treatment Techniques for Clients, Their Parents & Their Children (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Silver Award Winner):: https://goo.gl/sZYhym

The Clinician’s Guide to Diagnosis and Treatment of Personality Disorders: https://goo.gl/ZAVe9v

Dr. Fox has given numerous workshops and seminars on ethics and personality disorders, personality disorders and crime, treatment solutions for treating clients along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum, emotional intelligence, managing mental health within the prison system, and others. Dr. Fox maintains a website of various treatment interventions focused on working with and attenuating the symptomatology related to individuals along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum (www.drdfox.com).

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