What You Need to Know about Parents with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

Complex Borderline Personality Disorder: How Coexisting Conditions Affect Your BPD and How You Can Gain Emotional Balance. Available at:
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Order The Borderline Personality Disorder Workbook by Dr. Fox:
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Get the Anger Meter at: https://drdfox.com/worksheets/ Right click on the image and “Save image as…” to download it.

In this video, I’m going to discuss issues and concerns that often arise in parents with BPD. This video is aimed at providing insight and knowledge to help you understand yourself as a parent with BPD, or perhaps learn more about your parent with BPD.

It is not uncommon for parents with BPD to feel a sense of ambivalence and fear related to being a parent that manifests from an intense desire to care for another, the need to be cared for and a compulsion to recreate or revise early traumatic attachment and developmental experiences. Parents with BPD often want to raise a child to have different life experience than what they had; they want them to have a better life.
Many parents with BPD find that raising a child is much more complicated than they realized. Also, parents with BPD are tasked with building that attachment and providing a consistent and empathic environment to help their child develop. This can be tough for those who aren’t sure how to manage their own emotions, thoughts, and behaviors when stress increases. Individuals with BPD have a tendency to misinterpret behavioral expressions skewing toward the negative.

Those parents with BPD who experienced early abuse may be fearful of abusing their child and become withdrawn. Others may become intrusive and anxious in an effort to protect the child. Many parents with BPD have a fundamental difficulty in acknowledging the psychological separateness of their child (this is related to the unstable self-image often seen in those individuals with BPD) are at a higher likelihood to be motivated by their own unresolved traumatic attachment issues.

What about those helpful strategies I mentioned. Here are two you may find helpful.
Helpful strategies:
1. Recognize and radically accept that your child is separate from you. This does not mean you don’t love him or her, but that they will have a different life than you did. You are to be their cheerleader, a force of encouragement to help them grow.
2. Have an Anger Meter (show anger meter) to help you monitor your thoughts and emotions. I have created one for you, see the comments section for the link.

Daniel J. Fox, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in Texas, international speaker, and a multi-award winning author. He has been specializing in the treatment and assessment of individuals with personality disorders for over 15 years in the state and federal prison system, universities, and in private practice. His specialty areas include personality disorders, ethics, burnout prevention, and emotional intelligence.

He has published several articles in these areas and is the author of:

Complex Borderline Personality Disorder: How Coexisting Conditions Affect Your BPD and How You Can Gain Emotional Balance. Available at:
https://rb.gy/hdyqyy

Antisocial, Narcissistic, and Borderline Personality Disorders: A New Conceptualization of Development, Reinforcement, Expression, and Treatment. Available at: https://tinyurl.com/2anv8dww

The Borderline Personality Disorder Workbook: An Integrative Program to Understand and Manage Your BPD. Available at: https://goo.gl/LQEgy1

Antisocial, Borderline, Narcissistic and Histrionic Workbook: Treatment Strategies for Cluster B Personality Disorders (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Gold Award Winner): https://goo.gl/BLRkFy

Narcissistic Personality Disorder Toolbox: 55 Practical Treatment Techniques for Clients, Their Parents & Their Children (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Silver Award Winner):: https://goo.gl/sZYhym

The Clinician’s Guide to Diagnosis and Treatment of Personality Disorders: https://goo.gl/ZAVe9v

Dr. Fox has given numerous workshops and seminars on ethics and personality disorders, personality disorders and crime, treatment solutions for treating clients along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum, emotional intelligence, managing mental health within the prison system, and others. Dr. Fox maintains a website of various treatment interventions focused on working with and attenuating the symptomatology related to individuals along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum (www.drdfox.com).

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