Healing the Pain of NPD Parents and Codependency

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In this video, we’re going to talk about a concept I call survival codependency. This is an inherent reflex to make yourself second and is often learned very early in life as a result of having narcissistic parents, but it doesn’t end there. It’s a lifelong pattern that puts you in relationships where you’re caring for others, often narcissists, at your own expense and you don’t even know you’re doing it. You don’t do this consciously, but it’s like an instinctive response for second place.

Survival codependency is often seen in individuals that accommodate narcissistic individuals, which can include parents, partners, or bosses. Many individuals who attempt to go along with their narcissistic parents, partners, or bosses tend to adapt to the whims and will of the narcissistic individual to avoid rejection, dissonance, and appease their own pleasing nature

The challenge in getting over survival codependency is that you have to recognize that it exists inside yourself. Let’s look at some identifiers:
• Do you put yourself second to everyone else without a second thought?
• Do you feel great dissonance when praised?
• Do you reflexively attempt to minimize acknowledgements?
• Do you tend to end relationships with people who try to keep it a balanced, 50/50 relationship, and prefer the skewed ones, where you do so much more than your partner to nurture the relationship?
• Do you have a tendency to get into relationship where you’re objectified or used, without any attention paid to your worth and personal uniqueness?
• Do you have an inherent need or reflex to make sure your narcissistic parent, partner, or boss is recognized and cared for? That their narcissism is well fed?

If you answered yes to all, or some, of these, I want to encourage you to explore those aspects of yourself that harbor this need. Therapy can great way to tap into this issue and overcome it. Overcoming it entails learning about yourself, recognizing and believing in your value. Holding yourself accountable to take care of yourself and embracing the respect you deserve. It’s not easy but it’s achievable.

Daniel J. Fox, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in Texas, international speaker, and a multi-award winning author. He has been specializing in the treatment and assessment of individuals with personality disorders for over 15 years in the state and federal prison system, universities, and in private practice. His specialty areas include personality disorders, ethics, burnout prevention, and emotional intelligence.

He has published several articles in these areas and is the author of:

Complex Borderline Personality Disorder: How Coexisting Conditions Affect Your BPD and How You Can Gain Emotional Balance. Available at:
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Antisocial, Narcissistic, and Borderline Personality Disorders: A New Conceptualization of Development, Reinforcement, Expression, and Treatment. Available at: https://tinyurl.com/2anv8dww

The Borderline Personality Disorder Workbook: An Integrative Program to Understand and Manage Your BPD. Available at: https://goo.gl/LQEgy1

Antisocial, Borderline, Narcissistic and Histrionic Workbook: Treatment Strategies for Cluster B Personality Disorders (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Gold Award Winner): https://goo.gl/BLRkFy

Narcissistic Personality Disorder Toolbox: 55 Practical Treatment Techniques for Clients, Their Parents & Their Children (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Silver Award Winner):: https://goo.gl/sZYhym

The Clinician’s Guide to Diagnosis and Treatment of Personality Disorders: https://goo.gl/ZAVe9v

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