When A Guy Ignores You After An Argument - What to do!

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When A Guy Ignores You After An Argument - What To Do!
By: Carlos Cavallo

Have you ever had a guy stop talking to you after you get into a disagreement? What do you do when a guy ignores you after an argument?

There's nothing more frustrating than getting the silent treatment. You feel ignored, minimized, and very small. It also feels like you're abandoned.

I'm pretty sure each of us has experienced it at some point. You might have even given somebody else the silent treatment. We sometimes even use this on our family.

Somehow we feel that going quiet is an appropriate punishment for the other person. Or an appropriate way to demonstrate our feelings.

But in the end it usually causes more damage than anything else.

Let's talk about the different reasons that a guy would ignore you after you fight. And then let's talk about what to do when he ignores you like this.
Why He Ignores You - 1: You're right and he's wrong

I think everyone who gets into a fight likes to assume that they are right. Inevitably we always figure out that even if we are "right," the victory lap we take doesn't feel very good. It feels hollow.

Like the old saying goes, would you rather be right or would you rather be happy? When we let our egos get us into the situations, sometimes we can't figure a way out. And sometimes we get so dug in that we can't let go.

Ultimately, if you need to be right, you probably shouldn't be in a relationship.

That's pretty strong talk, huh?

But if you've been in any long-term relationships, especially marriage, you know that being right always comes at the cost of the goodwill in the relationship.

In the truth of the matter is it's not really about who's right and who's wrong in the end. It's really about being heard.

Yes, sometimes his ego will get in the way of admitting that you were right. And yes, he may use the silent treatment to sulk a little bit.

But give him time and he will come back around.

One thing you definitely don't want to do is to rub it in his face. You won't get the satisfaction you might hope from this. And why would you want to?
Why He's Not Talking - 2: He's otherwise occupied

One of the more realistic reasons a man isn't getting back to you after a fight is that the rest of his life gives him the excuse he needs to step away for a while.

Sometimes the timing really isn't good. Men are notorious for not talking about every little thing that's going on in their life. Whereas women are often characterized as doing the opposite.

Meaning that it's much more likely that he hasn't told you about everything he's got going on. He's just juggling his busy-ness as best he can.

And if your conflict happened right when he was busy with a lot of other things, or just about to be, there's a good chance he's just preoccupied with everything else.

While you may feel this is personal, it's not. Well, it's mostly not.
When He Won't Reply - 3: He's flooded

One of the things that will trigger a man is too much emotional conversation. Guys simply do not engage in a lot of talk about emotions. It's not the way we are built.

Many women look at this as being a fault in men. Just as many men see women's preoccupation with emotions as a fault in them.

The truth is somewhere in between.

But when you have a very emotional discussion, sometimes known as an argument, a guy will rapidly tire from the conflict. He doesn't want to be angry at you, and yet the only way he can stay in the argument is to bring up negative feelings.

For a woman, it's very likely that you will tap into sadness as the fuel for your side of the argument - along with your own anger.

Keep in mind that this emotional content will flood his brain. A guy simply can't stay in emotional conversation for as long as a woman can. And when he's hit his ceiling, he will shut down. Just like a computer that has crashed.

The best thing you can do is to let him back off and recharge.

Unfortunately, most of the men I have talked to about the experience of arguing with their girlfriend or wife say that they often are pressed to keep going. Which is understandable, when you want to resolve this very emotional feeling that's going on.

However you have to give men a break from the argument so that he can regroup and recharge. And that may take some time.

When a man becomes flooded and is pressed to continue talking about something emotional, you may find that ...

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When A Guy Ignores You After An Argument