The Damage Over-Pursuing Does

The danger and damage it does to a woman’s perception of a man when he goes from over-pursuing, over-texting and acting needy while being stuck in friends-zone, to letting her do most of the calling, texting and pursuing when they finally become romantic lovers.

In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who shares a story of how he went from over-texting, over-pursuing and acting needy, thereby getting himself stuck in friends-zone, to how he was able to cause her to fall in love with him and ask him to be her boyfriend. However, after three months of dating she started complaining and nagging that he does not text her all the time at work, send good morning texts, etc. He then told her that when he used to do this, she basically took him for granted, kept him in friends-zone and jerked him around. She told him that she does not feel loved and broke up with him because she feels like she has to do all of the calling, texting and pursuing. This is a classic case of what happens when you spoil a woman and condition her to expect your over-pursuit, which turned her off in the beginning, to your backing off which attracted her to you. Why it’s nearly impossible to change a woman’s perception of you when you over-pursue in the beginning, and how this creates unnecessary problems and drama after she falls in love with you.

“It’s very difficult to change a woman’s perception of you after you have over-pursued, over-texted and acted needy while trying to date her, but being firmly stuck in friends-zone for several months. If you are able to exercise emotional self-control and back off so she starts to pursue you and develop romantic interest, once she falls in love with you, she may start to complain and nag that she has to do most of the pursuing. This makes it almost impossible to find a healthy balance between pursuing too much, which turns her off, and not pursuing enough, which also turns her off, because now she will expect you to behave the same way you did in the beginning. The phone is for setting dates, not getting to know someone. If you violate this principle in the beginning of a relationship by texting and talking all day long, later on in the relationship she will think you no longer care when you don’t do this. Besides, when you talk constantly via the phone, texting or messaging, you’re not going to have much to talk about in person on your dates, which makes things boring and awkward.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne

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