Marriage Series | Worth Fighting For | Part 1 | Defining Romance | Jason & Judy Henderson

Introduction / Part 1: Defining Romance
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NOTES:

Adam and Eve were put in a perfect garden, with a perfect relationship, and perfect fellowship with God and themselves. They had only Two Rules To Follow:

Eat As Much As You Want (Except From ONE Tree)

Have Lots and Lots Of Babies

Genesis 1:26-28

The Laws of Physics:

Dynamic (Growing)
Static (Grown)
Entropic (Dying)

All relationships are in one of these three phases. Anything not growing is dying.

Revelation 2:1-5

The Truth About Marriage Trouble
Long before serious marriage problems set in, the relationship has left the dynamic state. Like a car that begins to rust, and the shine is gone, it becomes:

-Unattractive
-Weak
-Inoperable

Q. What can I do to revive my marriage?

A. Romance-one of the most important but least understood areas of marriage. It is an ingredient in every successful courtship.

Many People Think:

-It is ONLY for women or it is a section in a bookstore.

TRUTH: It’s a deep need and desire for everyone.

-It is a feeling you can’t control (Mood).

TRUTH: It is an atmosphere YOU create and have total control over.

-It is seasonal extra, not a daily part of life.

TRUTH: It is an essential daily element in a successful marriage.

THE IMPORTANCE OF ROMANCE

Romance does 3 things for your relationships:

It is your Emotional Cornerstone.

Promotes and Protects your relationship

Closes the door on outside temptation.
1 Corinthians 7:1-9

THE CHEMICAL ELEMENTS OF ROMANCE

Meeting an Unspoken Need or Desire

When we “fall” in love we are
- Highly focused
- Pro-active

True Romance says:
You are on my heart.
I am paying attention to you.

The CORE issue:
We all want to be desired.
Romance is the language of desire.
Half-How I feel about you.
Half-How you make me feel.

Speaking Love In Your Spouse’s Language.

All Major Needs Are Different:

Men (top needs - no particular order):
Honor
Physical Act of Intimacy
Playmate
Domestic Support

Women (top needs - no particular order):
Security
Communication
Affection
Leadership

What Romance Looks Like -

For Her:
All Day Long
Slow Talking
Affection

For Him:
Naked
Sex
Honor
Fun

ROMANCE IS A LANGUAGE DEMONSTRATION NOT A LESSON.
Great marriages are bi-lingual.
LEARN to speak your spouses language

Communicating Unique Value To Your Spouse -
Two things are needed for success in this area:
Consistency
Communicated in different ways.
Verbally
Comparative (What I am willing to give up for you)
Contributed (what I want to give to the relationship.)
Creative (be unique)

APPLICATION:

ROMANCE is ESSENTIAL.

ROMANCE is for EVERYONE

ROMANCE is an ENVIRONMENT WE COMPLETELY CONTROL BY OUR WILL AND NOT OUR EMOTIONS.

ROMANCE IS:

-Meeting unspoken needs and desires.

-Speaking love in our spouses language.

-Communicating value to your spouse.

KEYS TO RENEWING YOUR ROMANCE

-Forgive your spouse.

-Focus on yourself and take responsibility for your own issues.

-Ask the Holy Spirit To Fill You Daily.

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