Psychologist Confesses Signals That Turn Women Off | Bill von Hippel Ep. 637

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Bill von Hippel is a professor of psychology at the University of Queensland and the author of The Social Leap: The New Evolutionary Science of Who We Are, Where We Come From, and What Makes Us Happy.

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What We Discuss with Bill:
0:00 - Intro
0:39 - How we figured out when humans started wearing clothes
3:08 - Instinctual fear inside us
6:23 - Humans naturally want to share
8:37 - How early apes survived without getting killed by stronger animals
13:50 - Trauma bonds humans together
15:58 - Human eyes evolved to indicate which direction you’re looking
19:32 - Fighting lactose sensitivity
21:14 - What stone tools reveal about planning
25:39 - Theory of mind: the human ability to mind-read
30:52 - Why humans evolved to lie but still haven’t evolved to detect lies
33:17 - We evolved to share but income inequality is so high
35:38 - Why babies crying drives us crazy
40:43 - “Finding your passion” or “feeling unfulfilled” is a new phenomenon
41:57 - Unfakeable mating signals are more impressive to women than fakable ones
46:04 - Last place aversion: why 2nd place sucks
49:26 - Explaining comparison syndrome
54:59 - Does marriage make you complacent?
1:04:28 - Divergent thinking: the trait of ingenuity
1:09:33 - Why you hate how you look in photos
1:15:34 - You always think you’re the good guy
1:17:04 - The time Bill had to save a child but also his ice cream cone
1:25:15 - Why young men are dumb

Even when you are a human being, trying to explain why you do the things you do can be a bit of a mind-bender. Do you work hard toward elusive goals only to be thwarted by happiness when every metric tells you you’ve succeeded? Do you wish your friends well, but secretly wince with jealousy if they manage to do too well? Have you stepped into the role of boss or parent only to discover with shock that your behavior matches that of bosses and parents you’ve complained about in the past? What makes us such anxiety-driven, contradictory creatures who seemingly sabotage our own chance for joy at every opportunity?

To get to the bottom of these perplexing questions, University of Queensland psychology professor Bill von Hippel joins us to discuss his book The Social Leap: The New Evolutionary Science of Who We Are, Where We Come From, and What Makes Us Happy. Here, we’ll take a peek at how some of our most maddening behavioral quirks evolved along with us as survival mechanisms that helped our ancestors descend from the safety of the treetops and brave the predator-heavy savannahs to build a world in our flawed but familiar image. Listen, learn, and enjoy!

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