08 - Understanding Narcissism - Insights into Human Behavior and Motivations
In this episode, we explore the topic of narcissism, a complex and deeply ingrained condition that affects an individual's ability to empathize with others and take responsibility for their actions. We examine the traits and behaviors of true narcissists and why they may be difficult to engage in meaningful self-reflection or discussion about their behavior. Additionally, we discuss why someone might repeatedly read an email that is critical of them or addresses a painful issue, from healthy, non-narcissistic reasons to the unhealthy reasons related to narcissism.
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Alice Miller. (1997). The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self, Revised Edition (3rd edition). Basic Books.
American Psychiatric Association. (2013). Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 5th Edition: DSM-5 (5th edition). American Psychiatric Publishing.
Boddy, C. R. (2011). Corporate Psychopaths, Bullying and Unfair Supervision in the Workplace. Journal of Business Ethics, 100(3), 367–379. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10551-010-0689-5
Brown, B. (2015). Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead (Reprint edition). Avery.
Buffardi, L. E., & Campbell, W. K. (2008). Narcissism and Social Networking Web Sites. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 34(10), 1303–1314. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167208320061
Chekroud, S. R., Gueorguieva, R., Zheutlin, A. B., Paulus, M., Krumholz, H. M., Krystal, J. H., & Chekroud, A. M. (2018). Association between physical exercise and mental health in 1·2 million individuals in the USA between 2011 and 2015: A cross-sectional study. The Lancet Psychiatry, 5(9), 739–746. https://doi.org/10.1016/S2215-0366(18)30227-X
Corrigan, P. (2004). How stigma interferes with mental health care. American Psychologist, 59(7), 614–625. https://doi.org/10.1037/0003-066X.59.7.614
De Arellano, M. A. R., Lyman, D. R., Jobe-Shields, L., George, P., Dougherty, R. H., Daniels, A. S., Ghose, S. S., Huang, L., & Delphin-Rittmon, M. E. (2014). Trauma-Focused Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy for Children and Adolescents: Assessing the Evidence. Psychiatric Services, 65(5), 591–602. https://doi.org/10.1176/appi.ps.201300255
Gordon, S. (n.d.). Emotional Abuse—Leaving, Setting Boundaries, and Healing. Retrieved July 31, 2023, from https://www.invisibleabuse.net/helping-a-loved-one/leaving-setting-boundaries-and-healing
Heeke, C., Kampisiou, C., Niemeyer, H., & Knaevelsrud, C. (2017). A systematic review and meta-analysis of correlates of prolonged grief disorder in adults exposed to violent loss. European Journal of Psychotraumatology, 8(sup6), 1583524. https://doi.org/10.1080/20008198.2019.1583524
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Lancer, D. (2016, April 24). What is Narcissistic Abuse? Psych Central. https://psychcentral.com/lib/what-is-narcissistic-abuse
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Mas Manchón, L., & Badajoz Dávila, D. (2022). The use of social media as a two-way mirror for narcissistic adolescents from Austria, Belgium, South-Korea, and Spain. PLOS ONE, 17(8), e0272868. https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0272868
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Kealy, D., & Ogrodniczuk, J. S. (2017). Narcissistic personality disorder: The voice of the patient. Journal of Psychiatric Practice, 23(6), 417–424.
Malkin, C. (2015). Rethinking Narcissism: The Secret to Recognizing and Coping with Narcissists. HarperWave.
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Pincus, A. L., Ansell, E. B., Pimentel, C. A., Cain, N. M., Wright, A. G., & Levy, K. N. (2009). Initial construction and validation of the pathological narcissism inventory. Psychological Assessment, 21(3), 365-379.
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Stalker, C. A., & Gebotys, R. J. (2000). Group therapy for survivors of narcissistic abuse. Psychotherapy: Theory, Research, Practice, Training, 37(1), 38-47. Stalker, C. A., & Gebotys, R. J. (2000). Group therapy for survivors of narcissistic abuse. Psychotherapy: Theory, Research, Practice, Training, 37(1), 38-47.
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01 - The Power of Building Skillsets and Helping Others
In the first episode of "Information for Life," we discuss the power of positivity, self-worth, and resilience in the face of negative behavior. Learn about building skill sets, investing in yourself, and helping others to reinforce your worth and make a net-positive impact on the world. Join us as we explore how to overcome negativity and focus on spreading positivity for personal growth and a better world.
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02 - Defining True Strength - Overcoming Hardships with Resilience and Humility
In this episode, we explore the meaning of true strength and how it's not just about physical ability, but also emotional and mental fortitude. We discuss how resilience and humility are key components of strength, and how facing and overcoming challenges can make us stronger. Join us as we explore what it means to be truly strong and how we can cultivate strength in our own lives.
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03 - Dealing with Angry People - Calmness, Empathy, Common Ground, Effective Techniques
Discover effective techniques for dealing with angry people in our latest episode, where we discuss the importance of calmness, empathy, and finding common ground to navigate tense situations and improve communication.
The sources below provide additional information and guidelines:
Use of Force by Law Enforcement Officials
Self-Defense Overview
Legal Limits on Self-Defense
Lethal Force in Defense of Property
Please note that these resources are for general information purposes only and should not be taken as legal advice. Laws regarding self-defense and the use of force vary widely depending on jurisdiction and specific circumstances, so professional legal advice is recommended.
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04 - Discussing Important Topics in a Serious Relationship
In this episode, we delve deep into essential topics couples should discuss when considering a serious or lifelong relationship. From goals and boundaries to intimacy, trust, and even exploring kink, we cover a wide range of subjects to promote open and honest communication between partners. Join us as we navigate the crucial conversations that can strengthen the foundation of a healthy and fulfilling relationship.
#informationforlife #seriousrelationship #relationshipgoals #communication #boundaries #trust #intimacy #finances #conflictresolution #personalgrowth #parenting #spirituality #career #emotionalsupport #kink #bdsm #consent #opencommunication #lifelongrelationship
Sources for further reading:
"10 Conversations Every Serious Couple Should Have" by Erin Nicole in The Huffington Post.
"25 Things You Need to Talk About Before You Get Married" by Laura Lifshitz in PopSugar.
"30 Essential Things to Discuss Before Getting Married" by Bridget Clegg in Brides.
"The 15 Most Important Questions to Ask in a Serious Relationship" by Julia Malacoff in Best Life.
"21 Questions to Ask Before Getting Serious" by Marissa Laliberte in Reader's Digest.
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05 - Beyond Heartbreak - The Power of Endurance
In this episode, we explore the power of endurance and resilience when dealing with heartbreak and difficult times. We discuss how having a big heart is a blessing and not a curse, and how it can help us connect with others and make a positive impact on their lives.
#beyondheartbreak #powerofendurance #resilience #survival #thrive #strength #courage #empathy #emotionalwellness #personalgrowth #mentalhealth #selflove #innerstrength #inspirechange #bethechange
Sources for further reading:
Bonanno, George A. “Loss, Trauma, and Human Resilience: Have We Underestimated the Human Capacity to Thrive After Extremely Aversive Events?” American Psychologist, vol. 59, no. 1, 2004, pp. 20–28. DOI.org (Crossref), https://doi.org/10.1037/0003-066X.59.1.20.
Luthar, Suniya S., and Lucia Ciciolla. “What It Feels like to Be a Mother: Variations by Children’s Developmental Stages.” Developmental Psychology, vol. 52, no. 1, Jan. 2016, pp. 143–54. DOI.org (Crossref), https://doi.org/10.1037/dev0000062.
Masten, Ann S. “Ordinary Magic: Resilience Processes in Development.” American Psychologist, vol. 56, no. 3, 2001, pp. 227–38. DOI.org (Crossref), https://doi.org/10.1037/0003-066X.56.3.227.
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